[lostmyfuture]

Does anyone experience this? Especially males?

After sex I get very irritable and depressed. I believe it's because semen contains natural anti-depressants and once those leave the body I get depressed. I haven't found a solution for this, although it didn't used to be such a problem as a kid. I think maybe it indicates I'm already in a borderline depressed state, or that my body nutrition is poor. It's a very depressing thing to think about but has plagued me for a very long time. Just wondering who else experiences this. The obvious solution is the most difficult one...

[xadorningxwoundsx]

Well, a few possible reasons come to mind. It could be poor self-image, if you're in a monogamous relationship it could be that youre not satisfied with the sex, it could be a number of things! The first step is identifying whats causing the problem, and from there it'll be easier to solve it.

[lemonzest]

No I don't experience the same thing but I sometimes think my wife is less warm & loving & attentive afterwards once we've got up - makes me feel like she actually had a lot of other things on her mind that she wanted to get on with and once we're up she seems busy & focused on "her" agenda (actually i'm sure this is aprtly true) even when I'm helping or we're sharing any household jobs that need doing - that aspect of being together afterwards is something I don't like but you're saying you feel low and that is just you - not the interaction afterwards?

I've never heard of the idea of semen containing natural anti-depressants - it sounds like complete bull to me and even if it did I can't see how their presence in the testes would be of any benefit - I think they'd need to be in the bloodstream to help. Surely the quantity (if any) and efficacy would be very small anyway so I can't see that it would be a noticeably factor in feeling low afterwards - if anything I would expect the rise in endorphin levels to have an overall positive effect. The unpalatable (and completely impractical) solution (pun intended) would be to eat your own semen wouldn't it - would that balance things out? I can only imagine it's perhaps more to do with low self-esteem and if that's the case perhaps you need to delve more into the reasons for that plus I think we can all train oursleves, trick ourselves, convince ourselves that something is true and then get into a habitual way of looking at something when in fact it could be groundless and you just need a shift in your thinking.

[walksinair]

,Never heard the thing about semen, could it be u are a sensitive guy and not really getting what you need out of sex? For a long time there has been a stereotype that men just need to pardon the vulgarity but "get their rocks off". This is total bunk men need the intimacy,bonding and closeness that can accompany these acts just as much as women,but I would imagine if a guy has heard the other a lot and "bought" into it that it could be quite a let down emotiionally, just a thought

[lemonzest]

Originally Posted by walksinair

,Never heard the thing about semen, could it be u are a sensitive guy and not really getting what you need out of sex? For a long time there has been a stereotype that men just need to pardon the vulgarity but "get their rocks off". This is total bunk men need the intimacy,bonding and closeness that can accompany these acts just as much as women...

Yeah definitely.

[lynn P.]

You might find the answers in this interesting article. This is a normal occurence but if a person is already struggling with depression, it's fair to say it would be more apparent. Hormone levels change and different neuro chemicals fluctuate. Try eating some dark chocolate - I'm not joking, it might help a bit.

http://www.health-science-spirit.com/neurosex.html

http://www.reuniting.info/science/sex_in_the_brain

[HalfSwede]

I used to get that way sometimes. I guess maybe I'd examine the whole situation. What's going on with you before sex? Are you happy then, or just not as depressed? Does something about the situation not feel right to you? How is your overall relationship with your partner? What other kinds of events cause your mood to drop?