[thetheft]

Yesterday I went with my friend to the mall to look for things to get her mom. I almost got my mom something, but today I’m kinda glad I didnt. Because I didnt even see her today.

I dont like mothers day. I never really have. Probably because I never see my mom enough to even…know. You know? Like, I never see her. I think the last time I did was January, and before that it must have been my Birthday party. I’d say, i usually see her, on average, 5 times a year. Sometimes more if shes not busy in the summer.

Stupid hallmark holidays like this get me all sad and I remember that shes not really around at all. “Oh yeah, guys, go home this weekend and for mothers day wake up and do stuff she wants you to do without her asking, and if she askes why, say “because I love you”” That is what teachers were telling us friday.

Uhm, hello!? Some of us dont have moms to go home to every night and hug and do stuff for. We dont have a choice…

I just really miss my mom.

[walksinair]

How sad. I dont know how old u r or why you don't see your mom, but i am sorry this is happening. I have a stepxdaughter who we have not seen for almost 7 years her mother hid her from us and told her lots of stuff that wasnt true about her dad and i now she refuses to have contact with us. It breaks our hearts every day. So though this is a different situation i certainly understand u missing her.

have u tried talking to her in the brief times u do have with her and sharing how much this hurts you?
If u feel comfortable with it feel free to share more info with us here, someone may have ideas to help u cope with this.

[online user]

Sorry you don't see your mom as much as you like. I make an effort to see my mom (I'm nearly 62 and she's nearly 86) because I don't know how much longer I'll have her around. But she is still a dysfunctional mother--very much all about herself, doesn't listen to me much, favors my sisters and brothers over me, etc. I am nice to her, and see her in small doses, an hour or two at a time. She does live nearly two hours away. That way I still enjoy seeing her for a bit. Too much of her wears on me and feeds my depression.

Then there is the issue of never having had children, even though I wanted to. So mother's day is hard for me too. I try to do something nice for someone else--saw an 80-plus year old friend with no children and gave her a mother's day card and flowers from her cat. She lives in as assisted living facility with him. I suspected many of the other residents would be getting visits from children, etc. and it might be a sad day for her. To my surprise, by 1:30 PM, when we left, she was the only one who had received a visitor! And she was the only resident who had received a visitor the day before! She did greatly enjoy the visit, the card, and the flowers. And we sat with her while she ate her dinner--she said it was the best meal she had ever eaten at that facility. So I enjoyed mother's day for the helping of others, even though it is a sad day for me.

Sounds like you did much the same--helped your friend help her mother. That sounds like an excellent day for you, even though it is sad for other reasons. You did good, girl--heaping praise here! And you are also doing well to realize what is causing you sadness. It helps when we know ourselves and what distresses us, so we can face it or avoid it, or use compensating behaviors, like helping someone else as you did. Sending you hugs!

[Fuzzybear]

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