how worried should I be? / what should I do? (SUICIDE)

You are doing the right thing. I know it is hard. If she confronts you just reiterate what you stated in the post. My thought would be if it ends badly she didnt want help....you are just simply stating where she should be going for that help as you are not the professional and cannot do anything. I am so sorry you are having to go through this.

thanks.. I'm not sure if she's read it, she hasn't said anything about it..

Just keep us updated...hope things go well.

I think she has read it and she's ignoring it because she knows it's her...

I agree with the others... please keep posting and take special care of you..

She confronted me about it, all she did was ask if the post was about her and i said yes, she said that she thought it was but didn't want to assume. we haven't really spoken much about it i think she's mad at me.

I feel like i'm loosing her and i hate that. I don't know what to do..

I'm glad that she's not worrying me all the time anymore but I don't want to loose her.

You arent doing anything wrong if you lose her that is on her! I hate to say this but if she decides to do it theres nothing you can do to stop her. Sometimes losing(hopefully not to sui but just in general)what we thought was a friend turns out to be a blessing. Im not say that it wont hurt but in all honesty if you met her in a forum like this you have no real idea who she is, her history, how true anything she has said is, or anything else for that matter. I think you really need to focus on YOU! Are you in therapy? Could you talk to your therapist about this? This situation isnt healthy for either of you and I am not a pro so I can only give you my experience. It concerns me quite a bit that you are so wrapped up in the situation. Until you talk to a T feel free to keep posting and we will do our best to give you our experience or opinion.

i am coming very late to this dilemma. i think of people ending their life on purpose as people who are drowning. Many times i feel as though i am drowning too. If while in the water i come across someone else who is struggling to stay afloat too, i think i would develop a special bond. i would be devastated if that person would go under and leave me to struggle alone. Yet if that person were to try to hang onto me and we both start to go under...we both start drowning, i would have to do all that i could to save myself. As a former life guard it is true you have to sometimes let go of the drowning person in order to save yourself. It might be that you have to put some distance between you and your friend. You could try to get word to one of your friend's therapist/counselor about your concerns and then express to your friend how devastated you would be at her loss. As a result you cannot listen or talk to her "her end" any more. Express your love and caring for this person and repeat over and over she needs hospitalization if she keeps talking about ending it.
As for you, Quietone...
Try to focus on an art project, writing project, holiday project, anything that will help you put your energy into something constructive. It may be silly, but writing to a higher power, whatever you happen to believe, has helped me in the past. Now i write, do artwork, sleep, try to do some kind of needle craft,cleaning and organizing. And when all else fails i sleep. i give myself a gold star if i shower and dress and make the bed.
You do not have to give up the friendship unless it is going to cause you to give up on life too. Your friend will have to want to live...you cannot carry her...you cannot want to make life work for her...she has to do it herself. If she does give up, there is nothing you could have done to stop her or help her. Give yourself gold stars for trying to support her. You can be sad your friend chose to ignore the help being offered. Remember, it is your friend's choice not to accept any help; also your friend's choice to "cry wolf for attention" if that is the case. All choices have consequences. It might be your friend will lose your friendship as a result of her actions, which sound like a big loss on her part. Your friend is so lucky to have such a caring person in their life.

she asked if what I posted was referring to her. I said yes and she didn't really say much.

her last post was a lot more positive. about how she was trying and stuff. but some of the msgs still aren't great. but I guess it's a start.

as for me I'm trying to look after myself but it's really hard. and I've ended up back in ED under the mental health act .

Hope you get the care you need TheQuietOne and feel better soon

*Willow*