[canuck1971]

I will be 40 on Dec 3. This makes me sad. Why? Because at 40, don't feel like have accomplished much. One thing I really even wanted was my own family and children, that doesn't look like will happen anytime soon. Spent last 12 years trying to battle PTSD and Depression and Anxiety. Out of those 12 years, been off on medical leave several times, months at a time. Last boyfriend I had was in 2007, whom I broke up with because I couldn't handle being intimate with him. And now am triggered even more with any door slamming. People tell me it gets better. And I want to hang on to that and believe that is true, but right now there doesn't seem to be light at end of tunnel.

[unaluna]

I would ask you if you wanted to trade places (i have 60 coming up) but I don't want some 80 yr old haranguing ME...

I saw William Shatner on George Strombolopoulous this week. He was talking about turning 40 vs being 81 and how depressed he was at his 40th birthday, he even stayed in bed for 3 days, he thought his life was over. He is a bigger star now than he ever was. he said he springs out of bed because he can!

Maybe you can't be a birth mom anymore, but you could be a foster mom. Really, 40 is the new young. Yeah, your boobs are gonna fall by the end of the year, guaranteed, but that's the worst of it, promise!

[maynardssillygirl]

I am 28 and I have spend most of my life feeling like I have wasted it with being unhappy. I pray that by 40 I will have accomplished something, why do you feel like you haven't accomplished anything?

[kaliope]

i dont know if it helps, but it was very challenging raising children while battling mental illness so in one way you were blessed. i felt very worthless as a mother and did not feel as if i accomplished much with my life despite raising three troublefree kids.

on the otherhand you can still become accomplished after forty. i didnt get my degree until i was 45 and finally working a job i love helping others. finally feel as if i have succeeded in something.