[siempre nada]

Ok, so I'm trying to be more outgoing, and right now my roommate brought some of her friends over...I'm in the bedroom and I can here music blaring in the den, the door doesn't close all the way so I can see through the crack people walking back and forth. I feel awkward like i should introduce myself, but they just don't seem like people I'd like to be around. They're out on the balcony getting high and i'm pretty sure their going to start drinking tonight too..I don't know if I'm just being uptight or what..but i know that this just isn't my crowd. i'm reserved, i don't want to smoke and drink and curse. My roomie invited me out there but I really need to study and I don't really want to associate with that...i don't know..I just don't want to feel like a ***** by
sitting in here and not participating.

[Indie'sOK]

Hey.......I know what it's like to feel pathetic and stupid and lame, but feel is the key word here - you only feel that way. If you need to study and don't want to get high or drink, you aren't being lame - you're doing what you need to do for you.

For what it's worth...who parties on a Sunday night anyway? Look back tomorrow morning when you chose to be the smart one by forgoing drugs and alcohol.

Hope that doesn't sound parental preacher-ish. I'm not a parent - I'm 17. lol xx

[siempre nada]

Thanks, that's actually nice to here especially coming from someone who is around my age. Another thing that I've noticed is that they like talking smack about each other. People like that give me the heebie-jeebies because i don't even want to be around that. I don't know, I guess i'm just getting desperate. I've been a loner since high school, and I'm clawing the air for friends..

[Indie'sOK]

Wow, you sound pretty much exactly like me. I'm a high school junior. I look to college as my escape, a safe getaway from the hell of my paranoia...that which convinces me that people are gossiping about me and talking about me behind my back. Well, for the first time now I realize that college might not be all that people say it is. I think "what if the same problem follows me there??"

Does this sound familiar? I'm a huge loner. I really only have one friend that I talk to in two classes, and the rest of the day I'm by myself. I feel so lonely.

I wish I had some advice for you, but frankly I'm terrified and just as desperate. At least we both know we aren't alone..

[careless_realist]

I'm 23 and in my first few years of college I had those types of friends even though they did not match my personality at all looking back on it. Trust me you're not lame, I WISH I would've chose to do my own think instead of hanging with them all of the time just to try to be more out going, drinking, smoking, and stuff..it just wasn't me and I forced myself to be something I was not and I ended up friendless at the end of it all. They like totally stabbed me in the back once I started to become my own person and side against talking behind everyone's back. I just didn't get it then to go smile in their face and call themselves their friend? Ugh. I decided to mve out and they bleached my couch! It was crazy! lol

I completely understand where you're coming from "clawing for friends". Well if you don't want to feel like a ----- you could just go out and say hi and introduce yourself then just say that you just came out to say hi but you have to study. If they can't understand that then you really don't want to surround yourself with that. I learned the hard way. I transferred schools and join an organization (not like a sorority or anything like that) on campus and found sooo many people with personalities like my own..I was shocked, plus they are study hard people and keep me on track with my studies as well. We have so much fun and it's pure simple fun even if it's us just being random. Lastly, believe it or not I actually found my two best close friends over craigslist and my boyfriend as lame as that sounds lol but I've never been happier with the people in my life right not. So, you can be outgoing, but do it with the right crowd for you. I hope this is helpful :/

[siempre nada]

Well I decided to go out and watch a movie with them. For a great deal of time everything was fine, even after my roomie's boyfriend completely ignored me when introducing his friend to everyone. I was quiet, but didn't feel too uncomfortable because we were all just watch a movie (after of course everyone got high(except me))
Later on I noticed that her bf was laying down in a way that involved his feet and behind in my way. I tried to ignore it but then he farted right in my direction and said "whoops sorry" in the most insincere way possible. I said "ok" got up and walked back into my room. I could hear everyone laughing in the den hysterically. Her boyfriend is an asshole. I can't wait to get the hell out of this apartment.

I NEED FRIENDS IVE BEEN ALONE FOR 4 YEARS NOW AND IT HURTS TOO MUCH

[unaluna]

What an a s s. I would have a hard time being civil to roomie after that, or even letting bf into the apartment. He would find itching powder in his shorts next time he showered there. A girl can dream, right? Just be glad that pig isn't your boyfriend. Honestly. Roomie has issues.