[DownfallOfUsAll]

I really want to talk to my 2 best friends and tell them about how I've been feeling down and everything for so long but the thing is I haven't talked to them or seen them for about 5/6 months. Apart from speaking to them briefly online a couple of times. I miss them so much and I feel like I owe them a massive explanation about why I kind of stopped making an effort to talk to them or see them. I feel like such a bad friend. I've thought about doing this so many times but I think I need to do this now finally otherwise I never will.

They're both in University at the moment so that's a big part of why I haven't really spoken to them but I guess its my fault too. I don't even try to text them or anything. I'm just scared and I don't know why. I feel like they're not going to want to talk to me or they don't like me as much anymore.

I just don't know where to start though. This is a massive thing for me. I've never spoken about anything personal to them. I'm pretty much a closed book. I don't tell anyone anything. If I can do this it will be a massive achievement for me. I just need to get this right.

Since I cant really see them right now I'm going to just write them a message on facebook. I guess I'm cheating a little but there's no way I could tell them to their faces.

I don't know what to say. How am I supposed to explain to them about how depressed I've been and how I just completely shut myself away from them. I can't even begin to find the words.

I guess I just need a little encouragement or advice. I really don't really to chicken out this time.

[mazing]

Telling people is never easy but it is a massive step. And I don't see a problem telling them on facebook if that is how you feel comfortable doing so. It is completely up to you.

All I can suggest is tell them whatever you can. Be as honest as you can with them about what you are feeling and why you have distanced yourself. And if you can start by writing (or texting them) and letting them know that you have written them something that is important but may also be difficult to read and you want to make sure they are in the right spot for it. It allows them to not be as confronted by it if they don't already suspect anything and just think it is a regular 'catch up' message.

If possible I would suggest also telling them what you want them to do. Eg. 'I can talk about this if you want to call me or write back' or 'I'm not in the best spot right now but need you to know and will tell you more when I can'. A lot of people often want to help but are not sure what to do, and different people will want different things.

If you can find the links I would also send them some information on depression (links to websites etc) or suggest that they do a google search so they can find out information themselves. It then allows them to get more of an idea.

As I said it is never easy to tell someone but it does get easier. I hope everything goes well. And feel free to discard any of these ideas - they are things that have helped me in the past but everyone is different.

[tutitaylor]

I would keep it very simple and to the point. Like: I am sorry that I have been out of touch, but I haven't been well. Give me a call when you get a chance. Maybe when they reach back out to you, you will feel supported enough to explain that you are depressed. Everyone is different, but I hoped that this will help a little. Best of luck.

[DownfallOfUsAll]

Originally Posted by tutitaylor

I would keep it very simple and to the point. Like: I am sorry that I have been out of touch, but I haven't been well. Give me a call when you get a chance. Maybe when they reach back out to you, you will feel supported enough to explain that you are depressed. Everyone is different, but I hoped that this will help a little. Best of luck.

Yeah maybe I might just do that. Thank you for your help