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Dec 07, 2003, 05:45 PM
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hi, i don't really know much about depression or anything like that, but at the moment i'm trying to help 2 people who have mental problems, 2 of my closest friends, and i'm hoping that someone out there will be able to advise me on how to help them. 1 of them has been depressed for months now, she's got problems at home and is finding it really hard to cope, she's tried to commit suicide several times now, and i've sat and talked with her for hours, but nothing i say makes any difference to her. She's 17 and her parents are really nasty to her. She is actually talking to a counsellor, but that doesn't seem to be helping much, and now, she's told me that she's not eating properly, and not taking any medication that her doctor has given her, she says that she feels like she doesn't deserve and doesn't want any help.
Then there's my other friend, he's 18, and tried to kill himself about 18 months ago, but that was before i knew him. To eveyone else he seems really happy, and can always make people laugh, it was only the other night when he told me that he's not actually happy, he cuts himself and gets psychopathic visions of him killing people. No one else knows about it yet, i'm the first person he's told, but he's just been hurt really badly by this other boy and i'm worried that he might do something he'll regret. Please could someone advise me on how i could help them, i'm trying my best but i don't feel like i'm making any difference. |
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Dec 07, 2003, 11:05 PM
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Vikki, your friends sound like they need proffesional help. It's very brave and caring of you to try to help them, but please don't feel like you can do it on your own. Get them to seek proffesional help. That's the best way to help them. The girl, is it, sounds like she's abused and very depressed. Tell her it's the depression telling her that she's not worth it. Depression is a terribly liar! Your second friend sounds dangerous to me!
 Please get them to help themselves, ok? He's making a list and checking it twice...
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Dec 08, 2003, 12:03 AM
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Just want to agree enthusiastically with septmorn. Depression is a serious illness and need professional care, especially when it is as bad as you describe with your friends.
Best you can do is encourage them to get the help they need. Don't let them make excuses: they don't deserve help (they do) the doctor isn't helping (find a different doctor if that is true) they can handle it themselves (they shouldn't even have to try going it on their own, help is out there!). For your part you can learn as much about depression as you can so that you can understand and support them as they are getting treatment. Maybe offer to go to the doc with them or something. But if they won't get help you also don't want to let them hurt you. With serious threats of hurting themselves or especially others you also have to consider whether they (and you) would be better off in the long run if you tell someone, a counsellor or doc that you trust perhaps. They may be mad at you for breaking their confidence but maybe that would work out better in the end. That is a decision that you will have to make. Good luck and hope they realize how lucky they are to have a friend that cares and is willing to help.
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Dec 08, 2003, 08:25 AM
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you are a great friend to your friends
you should really try and get them professional help you have a great heart.. I hope all turns out well ABOUT THE NINTH HOUR JESUS CRIED OUT IN A LOAD VOICE, "ELOI,ELOI, LAMA SABACHTHANI?"~WHICH MEANS~"MY GOD, MY GOD,WHY HAVE YOU FORSAKEN ME?" ~MATTHEW27:46. MY GOD,MY GOD WHY HAVE YOU FORSAKEN ME?WHY ARE YOU SO FAR FROM SAVING ME,SO FAR FROM THE WORDS OF MY GROANING?~ PSALM 22:1
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Dec 11, 2003, 05:37 PM
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I know where you are. i have twice had to physicaly put myself between my friends and people they probobly would have seriously injured. and ive actually put one of my friends in a Police hold to keep her from killing herself...but you cant do it alone i tried for about a week to help my friend and now she is getting professional care and i can see a huge difference in her...also as a person on meds for Bi-polar depression tell your friend that meds may suck but they are neccicary
-David A great ship can weather the storm...as I float here in this rowboat and watch the storm approach I wish I had a friend to pull me up onto a ship.
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