[Neorahn]

For a long time now I've been severely depressed I'm constantly being told "lets just be friends" at first it didnt phase me and Id think it was them not me but over time when I've only gotten rejections after rejection I started to realize if there all saying I'm such an amazing guy but they want to be friends. That there either lying or I'm still not good enough and it's broken me down. The only girl that dated me for any length was just waiting for something better and when it showed up she cheated on me and left it's been about 2 years since then my I'm always lonely I was before her too but the depression has gradually gotten worse. I'm not mean to anyone and always loyal and willing to listen but girls are just never interested in me.

It may sound like I'm just whining that's what people always tell me but it really does hurt they don't understand how I feel I hate being single so much so so much

[Leed]

Hi ~ I can understand. I really do, as I've been in the same boat before. I finally realized what I was doing wrong.

Do you think PERHAPS that you're projecting negativity? I don't mean on purpose of course, but do you perhaps appear sad, negative and depressed all the time? We sometimes have a habit of doing that because that's how we FEEL -- but people don't want to be around us because we bring THEM down. WE make THEM feel depressed too, and so they don't want to hang with us. So regardless of how we feel, we need to try to act positive, and try not to subject our friends to our woes. That's what therapists are for.

So I had to change the way I acted around people, and in return I began to even FEEL better. It really took away some of my depression -- not all of course because some of it was deeper than that and I had to stay in therapy to get to that.

Just wondering if this might be part of the problem for you. Like I said, it was for me. God bless & please take care of yourself. Hugs, Lee

[turquoise4]

Hi, I can relate to feeling lonely. Its something I struggle with a lot too. You are not alone. Take care.