[doggiedo]

A few major things are going on with me and putting me in a very troublesome place.

1. On Sunday, my exhusband got married to the woman who he cheated on me with. I hate him and still am bitter. Not sure how to or if I will ever get over this.

2. I broke up with my b/f a week and a half ago and he has already has a date tonight. I'm struggling b/c I want to know how his date goes. I already saw what she looks like on FB - he has deleted "our" folder of pix and stuff.

3. I am depressed and the one I usually talk to about this is my bf (well, my ex, now) and I can't talk to him about how his actions are upsetting me. Reminder - I broke up with him

4. I also think I might be attracted to women. I'm not sure what to do about this or where to go. It's all very confusing to me.

Now I have the rest of the day off and tomorrow...my parents want me to come down and visit with them for the holiday. I just want to isolate. I have no direction, no meaning in life. Everything I have known has been tipped upsidedown and I feel really alone. More than ever.

[regretful]

It's hard to get past infidelity. My wife only had an Internet affair and I'm having a really tough time getting past it. With the other stuff, the ex, the attraction to women...give yourself some time. Spend that holiday with your parents if they are supportive. Isolating is not good. You are not alone...

Move on...that's what I'm trying to do with my life. I find that if I isolate that I just get deeper into self-loathing. It's when i reach out to others that I am able to escape, even if it is just briefly.

Best wishes to you.

[whimsygirl]

Wow....A lot to deal with. Sending a big hug your way....

[doggiedo]

Im glad someone understands and you are Right that isolaing is notgiod. Its all i want to do at this point. Less pain that way. What do I do get out of this?

[regretful]

Originally Posted by doggiedo

Im glad someone understands and you are Right that isolaing is notgiod. Its all i want to do at this point. Less pain that way. What do I do get out of this?

Not sure if that question was directed at me, but I'll take a shot at fielding it...

Getting out of it is not so simple, but it can be done. It might sound selfish, but focus on yourself and your needs. To heck with people who want to make you unhappy or want to be the cause of your unhappiness.

Also, keep moving forward and be thankful that you have parents around that care to see you. I lost my dad 16 years ago; not a day goes by that I don't think about him. My mom is still around, but we have nothing close to what I would call a relationship...So, treasure what you have around you.

Best to you.

[doggiedo]

yes, I am planning on seeing them tomorrow. I made plans for Saturday and for Sunday, so at least I won't be alone this weekend. I guess that's a step...

[dg1983]

Sorry you're going through so much. Good to know you are not spending the weekend alone. My boyfriend recently moved on and also did the same--deleted "our" pictures. Do you exercise at all? I found it can be quite the release...just a suggestion.

[Suki22]

oh, honey, I knew some of the stuff but I didn't know all of it. hugs to you! just take your time. you're dealing with a lot.

[harleychic]

Do yourself a favor and block his and her name on FB. If you have to look, you will have to make that extra effort and may give the that minute to say "why am I torturing myself?" nothing good will come of it. Trust me, been there, done that....I'd rather rearrange my sock drawer than waste my time watching someone else enjoying their lives while I watch and wonder why not me? Put yourself first, depression sucks and this is like pouring gasoline on a diffucult situation to begin with. Good luck, and if your like me you will unblock his and her names a few times and block it again but everytime you do it you will pause and go "this is stupid and a waste of time" who cares about her or him.