[Nat85]

I'm so angry today I forgot to take my meds last night and I got some unsettling news about my brother that has just sent me off into the deep end. I'm really struggling to control my mood, I feel sick in the stomach and I just feel really uneasy and so angry and disappointed. I'm trying so hard to help my brother despite the fact that I'm still sick and today it's just really taking its toll on me. I feel so helpless I just wish he would not lie to me and would get help.
This week has been so mentally and emotionally draining, I just feel like hitting a punching bag over and over again until I pass out.
I hate this sick feelin in my stomach I want it to go away.

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[regretful]

I do wish that I had some words of wisdom for you, but I'm in a similar boat with the emotional drain...I guess the route to take would be to help yourself first, and then you will have much more capacity to care for your brother...

((((Nat)))) I am sorry you arent feeling well and hope you feel better soon. I echo the same sentiments as the other member. Please be kind and gentle with yourself and try to focus your energy on taking care of you. Then perhaps you will have more strength and clarity to help the others in your life.
We all hate to see those we love hurting and struggling but your health and well being come first.
hugs to you.

[Rohag]

Hello, Nat85! I suspect your current state makes it difficult if not impossible for you to be of substantive help to your brother. Is it possible, for the present, for you to fully concentrate your limited energies on caring for yourself?

Best wishes for recovering stability and health!

[Leed]

Hi Nat ~ It kinda sounds like this isn't the first time that your brother has been in a pickle. Right? Did you know that by helping him all the time, you're enabling him, and keeping him from taking responsiblity?? Stop bailing him out of his problems, and make HIM figure things out. Quit worrying about it -- just FORGET about HIM and his problems. It's called 'tough love.' There comes a time when we HAVE to stop enabling our loved ones, and make them grow up! Plus YOU have to have some peace of mind. So tell him to figure things out for himself -- I assume he's an adult, right? (I hope so!!! ) If he's not, then tell your parents just what I told YOU.

Now, go to your bed, and pound your pillows until you feel better - seriously! Hugs, Lee

[Nat85]

Thanks everyone, I know I have to take care of myself first, I just feel responsible to help him and be his mother since our mum passed away a couple years ago. But I found out yesterday that he's now in a position where non of us can help him. Your right I have to forget about his problems and just focus on me I can't afford to have another breakdown

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[coneyislandbaby]

Originally Posted by Nat85

I'm so angry today I forgot to take my meds last night and I got some unsettling news about my brother that has just sent me off into the deep end. I'm really struggling to control my mood, I feel sick in the stomach and I just feel really uneasy and so angry and disappointed. I'm trying so hard to help my brother despite the fact that I'm still sick and today it's just really taking its toll on me. I feel so helpless I just wish he would not lie to me and would get help.
This week has been so mentally and emotionally draining, I just feel like hitting a punching bag over and over again until I pass out.
I hate this sick feelin in my stomach I want it to go away.

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Don't hit anything. I'm in a cast because i smashed my fist into a door. Its not worth it.

I take Xanax, but i have very very bad anxiety and irritability. But it does help.

((((Nat)))) what i forgot to address is that when I get upset / angry, i get very sick to my stomach. I have literally been with my T talking about something difficult and/or painful and
had to stop for fear I would throw right then and there ...she said that isnt unusual.

We would switch gears right away and do breathing and grounding techniques to calm the angst.
I hope this helps a little.
xx Rose