Is it wrong?

I've made a few posts here - none of them positive. I feel badly that I can't help anyone else. I have a hard time even adding a positive reply to someone else's post.
Is it wrong for me to ask for help when I have nothing to give in return?

I have only been here for about a month or so...in that time, I've posted many, many negative and needy posts. I think that by reaching out you are looking for the help you need, and by reaching out in this way, you just might be giving someone else what they need - by that I mean that some are here to help others, and they thrive off of that. I know that when I read a post where I can help that I'm pleased to know that someone is reaching out. If we all were writing positive things, then there would be nobody to help...see what I mean? I don't think what you are doing is wrong in any way.

There will come a time when you are feeling better and you will share your wisdom.

Hello justmom.....I don't think it's "wrong". When suffering from depression there are times when someone is barely hanging on, and there is just nothing left to give to others, even if you care. I would think ~believe that most of us understand that. One suggestion....and only if you feel like it, of course....perhaps you could send a Hug (if you're not doing that already). Just a thought. Hugs mean a lot......

(((justmom)))

As things begin to improve for you, and you feel more comfortable in these forums, you'll then have advice and support to give to others.

In my experience, it takes some time. It isn't unusual ~ you aren't being selfish. When the time is right for you, you'll be there for others in similar circumstances that you've been through.

Don't worry.

I don't know you personally, so if you are a sensitive/faint of heart person, I can't recommend you read this.

You asked, so I will state my answer. No, it is not wrong to ask for help when you don't have anything to give in return. If you want to know the truth, here: nothing is true. This means that there is no right or wrong. This applies to anything. I give negative posts all the time, probably all of my posts would be considered negative, I'm sure this one will count just the same. I'm going to lay this out for you. I disagree with shezbut, you are selfish. That is not "bad" or "wrong", you are your own being, inside your own mind. I have said this on this forum in a few places. How can it be wrong that you are looking out for yourself, that you want the best for yourself? It gives you the pleasure, something only you can feel for yourself, of course you are going to be selfish. Everyone wants the rewards, no matter what they say. They might try to do "random acts of kindness" or perhaps favors for people but really, all they are trying to do is benefit themselves in some way. I'm SORRY ok, this is how I see it.

I can prove it if you want proof. Here's another mind-bending statement: People only know what they are told, therefore the real truth remains when no one is around, and it is nothing.

thank-you so much to those who have said nice things to me.

CgRgSm - I guess you hit the nail on the head. The question was really the answer. I guess my only real option is to crawl back into the hole I so wanted to crawl out of.

i often feel guilty if i'm on and see a thread that i have nothing good to say on. so just reply letting them know that i've read it and i support them

i feel bad for posting negative posts, and not giving anything back to others.. even if it's just noticing their posts

that's how i see it- sometimes i want to reply to every single thread, but i can never do that... just makes me feel really bad when i see a thread and i've not written on it- guess i want to give my support just as much as i need it myself.

The simple answer is no! This site is for people who need support. I often don't write posts asking for help etc.. but rather mostly offer support to others. It's just the place I'm in I guess. But yet I often feel the same as you, that maybe I don't belong here because I am in a good space and my illness is currently under control (more or less). But the truth is there's a place here for all of us who either currently suffer or who have suffered. Thanks for posting this, you aren't alone.

I can relate. Some days are so bad, I have no "voice". I read the posts and want to reply and just can't so I leave a "hug" behind.

This is a wonderful support site. Thanks EVERYONE!

like f.reliant i mostly just send my hugs cuz im to depressed to 'encourage' others

I don't think it is wrong, you are giving in the sense that some people that read your posts can relate to how you are feeling too. So it's a good thing.

Thanks, dg. I know it has helped me to read other posts - makes me feel less alone. No one in my family (aside from my husband) knows anything about this and that adds extra stress. I know they would not understand so I'm not telling them, at least for now. (we live 3 hours away from the nearest family members) It is pretty lonesome here.