WTF

ifeeltheweight · Aug 20, 2012, 01:21 PM

Is it me or are these people in my house bat ****? My parents/sister and her 2 kids moved in with me temporalily and they are driving me up a wall. For the last month, I've been in a very bad place, able to snap at anytime. Problem is, they think it's me. I'm really starting to understand why I moved 13 hours away. Now they are here in my house, eating my food and running up my bills and haven't put anything into it. My parents do pay for some food. Since they have been here, they have broken my guest sink, got my trashcan smelling like a dump. My niece broke my garage door and I'm scared of what this months bills will look like. They don't keep my house clean. My sons room looks like a war zone. My kitchen is constantly dirty. My sister feels that since I don't have a spare room specifically for her, it's ok to leave her bra just laying around. Or it's ok to just walk around my house with no support. She doesn't have small breast and that is just not cool. She is 35 and seems to think the world is supposed to make exceptions for her.

I have no privacy anymore and I need my space. I'm a Gemini and I NEED my space. My mother who is ****ing oblivious to the fact that if I'm in a bad mood that I don't want to talk, seems to want to constantly ask me if I'm ok or give a verbal diagnosis that I'm not in a good mood. In fact my sister and her children think that this is what you are supposed to do. "Oh he is in one of his moods"..... Yes I am cause of you. Yesterday, after I spent my entire saturday moving my sister and kids into her apartment, and removing and fixing (as much as I could) the garage door, I find that they are still here. Why? My niece who just graduated high school and has her cosmatology license is doing my wife's cousins daughter and friends hair in my living room cause she didn't want to go to their house to do it.

My wife who was there at the time just thinks this is ok. My kitchen is a ****ing mess, these two girls have to move 6 hour old coffee mugs off the table just so they can sit and eat their pizza. And this **** is ok. Everyone's house gets messy but this is not cool. I like a clean house. Period... If my house isn't clean, no company.... I thought this was common sense. To give you an idea of the stupidity I've been dealing with - My mother says that I don't have enough silverware in my house (I have a 8 serving set for my family of 4) so here is some of my grandmothers silverware. I told her and who ever else was there that it's not that I don't have enough, it's that no one cleans up after themselves so that is why there is no silverware clean. Adding more silverware makes more dirty dishes, not resolve a made up problem. Again, they look at me like I'm over reacting. I could go on for days. I am ready to hurt someone so I just stay in my room as much as possible.

Ones44 · Aug 20, 2012, 02:37 PM

It gets to a point where feelings gotta get hurt... its your house, make them leave... idk what else you can do...

layla11 · Aug 20, 2012, 03:08 PM

Hi Ifeeltheweight, its time for them to go. Sounds like they have overstayed there welcome. I cant be around my family without them driveing me nuts and if they moved in for more than about a week well it wouldnt be pretty.

regretful · Aug 20, 2012, 03:40 PM

I heard an "old saying" from a friend...Family and fish are alike - after having them around for more than three days, both of them start to stink. I hope things improve for you soon.

unaluna · Aug 20, 2012, 03:47 PM

I hope you at least get some decent nookie out of the beauty shop in your living room scenario. from your wife I mean of course.

ifeeltheweight · Aug 20, 2012, 07:13 PM

Thanks. I don't know what I was looking for, I guess I needed to vent. At least I know I'm not the one over reacting. Good news is that it is 8pm and my sister and kids have not returned. That means they are gone. Just my parents left and I can tolerate them. They will be gone soon too when they close on their house. I feel like moving away again though. I just think I need to be alone. I'm a loner for the most part and I come from a family that wants to know everything that is happening. I really just need people to leave me alone. Not you guys of course. lol.