[justempty]

My husband died in Feb. of 2011 and I posted here a few times when I was feeling my worst. Now my son has told me he will be moving out of my house at the end of the month and I am going to be alone. He is a big part of what got me through after my husband died. We get along so well and always laugh together. It helped me to know that he would always be coming home at the end of the day. Soon I will be coming home to an empty house...going to bed in an empty house. I have never had to do that before.

Why is life so hard? I know my son needs to move out and make a life for himself. I know everyone who has children has to face this eventually, but it's so much harder when you're going to end up completely alone. I keep remembering the happy family times when my husband was still alive and the boys were around. I had no idea I'd be alone in a few short years.

I feel like I come here and ramble. There's so much more to all this than I can put in a post. But I feel like I can come here and let my thoughts pour out through my fingers, and you all won't judge me. Thanks for that.

[Rachel.i]

Hi justempty, my grown kids moved out in the past few years and it hard sometimes not hearing the noise of them and their friends and the coming and going.

I still have my husband here though so I can only imagine how very hard, in many different ways, that it must be for you...

[tigerlily84]

Rambling is good. I do that quite a bit myself.
I'm so glad that you and your son were able to help each other. Whether he lives with you or not, you will always have that. I know that it won't be quite the same of course. If he is living close enough, maybe the two of you can meet for dinner weekly or something. Please keep posting, we're here for you.

[jelly-bean]

Hi justempty. Is your son moving far away or will he be close enough to come and visit you? I know having him visit will not be the sam as living there, but it is something for you to look forward to. I used to ramble to my coworkers after my son moved out. It's a good thing and you are welcome to ramble here as much as you like. I know it doesn't seem like it, but just as he is making a new life for himself, so will you for yourself. It all takes time and adjustments. Feel free to post and ramble any time you feel the need.

[Kingsley85]

Have you thought about getting a roommate? It might be nice to have someone around that you like. I'm not sure where you live and if it's an option but I just thought I would throw that out there. Maybe your son can visit you for an hour after he gets home from work? If he knew that would make you happy he might be able to do it. I hope you feel better, you sound like a great mom.