[LostMom3]

I have been really depressed for over a year, Gloser to a year and a half. I know alot of it is just me, but some is caused by the people close to me, that I live and who said they love me. First, my middle son, Brandon was arrested with a gun, he was a convicted felon on probation, he was sent to prison for 2 years. Second, my oldest son, Chaz, and his wife got a divorce while she was pregnant with their 2nd baby. I have seen my uldest granddaughter maybe 10 times in the past year and seen the youngest a total of 4 times. Their mother let my sister keep them while she worked, and she lost her youngest daughter to child protective sevices when she was 4. She let my ex-best friend keep them and she went to prison for 3 years for child abuse. Yet, she has told people I am not permitted to see them. Even my son won't go against her. I have never been to jail, never beat my children, I don't do street drugs, and I don't drink. I have no clue why I am not permitted to see them.
I founf out my 16 year old son,Dayton, has been smoking marijuana and synthetic marijuana with his dad since he was 13. His dad can't pay child support for 13 years but he can by drugs to do with his son. Now, I am having to console my youngest because his dad has been arrested for the 3ed time with possession with intent to distrubute methamphetamines, and my ex's mother is in final stages of cancer. During this past year, my boyfriend has cheated and talked with numerous women behind my back. My youngest neice made moves on my boyfriend when she was drunk. He admitted this to me and then told me that he was attravted to her because she reminds him of me 14 years ago. I have had a bad year and a half and it is not over with yet. The worst is yet to come. My oldest son caught an aggravated child molestation and statutory rape charge against a 15 year old girl. He was 21 then. He says he was drunk and she was with a man they both knew. The man brought her to my sons hotel room and she proceeded to give him oral sex and attempted to have intercourse with him, but he was unable ro because of alcohl. The other man has already faced charges in our county and recieved 25 years, he has 2 more counties to fo to court in. My son only has 1 county to go to court in. My son admits what happened. He thought she was older, but never asked. Because there is a 6 years age difference between them he can't get them reduced to misdeamenors. They are both felonies. He is looking at a total maximum of 25 years.
I thought 2 years without one of my sons was bad, but 25? I may not even live that long. I know he needs to be punished, she was only 15. But I am going to be punished too. She has admitted she instigated the sex acts between them, but she was under 16 which is the age of consent.

[Leed]

OMG. You have really had a heck of a time. Bless your heart, I wish I had some words of wisdom to say to you, but you brought them up the best you could --- you taught them right from wrong. THEY MADE THEIR OWN DECISIONS. Now they have to face the consequences. YOU didn't do this. It's their own fault. Yes, you will suffer too, but you must look at it as they are paying for their wrong-doing. You did what you were supposed to do. You did ALL you could do as a single mother. Perhaps if their father hadn't been such a jerk, and had manned up and been the father he was supposed to be, they would have turned out better -- but that didn't happen. They didn't have the father they should have had. They had the MOTHER they needed, YES. But sometimes that's not enough, and it's not your fault.

You may have to strengthen yourself if they are sentenced to some time, but at least you will know they are not out getting in trouble and gettiing shot! You'll always know where they are.

My son has been in prison too, and I worried and fretted for awhile -- but then I settled down and realized that he had a roof over his head, and he was learning something. He hasn't been in trouble since he got out 4 years ago. I wish you the very best my friend. God bless you and please take care of YOU. Hugs, Lee

[LostMom3]

Originally Posted by Leed

OMG. You have really had a heck of a time. Bless your heart, I wish I had some words of wisdom to say to you, but you brought them up the best you could --- you taught them right from wrong. THEY MADE THEIR OWN DECISIONS. Now they have to face the consequences. YOU didn't do this. It's their own fault. Yes, you will suffer too, but you must look at it as they are paying for their wrong-doing. You did what you were supposed to do. You did ALL you could do as a single mother. Perhaps if their father hadn't been such a jerk, and had manned up and been the father he was supposed to be, they would have turned out better -- but that didn't happen. They didn't have the father they should have had. They had the MOTHER they needed, YES. But sometimes that's not enough, and it's not your fault.

You may have to strengthen yourself if they are sentenced to some time, but at least you will know they are not out getting in trouble and gettiing shot! You'll always know where they are.

My son has been in prison too, and I worried and fretted for awhile -- but then I settled down and realized that he had a roof over his head, and he was learning something. He hasn't been in trouble since he got out 4 years ago. I wish you the very best my friend. God bless you and please take care of YOU. Hugs, Lee

My middle son just got out of prison a month ago. I have never been so happy to see somebody in my life. I was miserable the whole time he was gone. He did get treated for his mental health problems while he was in there so some good came from it. He was paranoid and thought people were out to kill him, so he bought a gun. The felonies he was on probation for were terroristic threats. He had a bad anger issue. I called it his manic rages. My other son has no such excuse. He was where he should not have been. He should have been home with his wife and child. He was drinking and should not have been. He knows to always ask the female how old she is. I have pounded that into their heads since they each turned 16. He deserves to be punished. It is just going to hurt me so bad. My granddaughters will one day come looking for their fathers family and I will be waiting on them, the rest is just history.

[Steel Lion]

I'm sorry things are so hard

Please keep going, life is hard an unfair at times, but there stil small pleasure that help you keep going

[Snowy83]

I'm so sorry what you've been going through, I know no matter what I said couldn't make you feel better and take away your pain. But hang in there with us, there are always some tiny silver of light in the tunnel once in a while, try to find it and enjoy it