anxious because of the departure of my mum

When I was little, the relationship with my mother was very bad, because she is an alcoholic and also she had depressions on and off. Latelly, 3 or 4 years, she has been better, no drinking and our relationship has improved a lot. She has been living with me for the pas 4 months because there are better doctors in the city that I live. Our time together has been very agreable, chatting a lot, doing things together, sometimes being and example to me or giving me good advices and support, I have a depression since 13 years ago.
So, she is going back to her house, 1 hour by plain, and I started to feel very anxious about her being alone or suffering because of my siblings selfishness.
I already feel better just writing this.
Thanks for your support

Hi cactus_lover,

Have you talked to your mother about your concerns? I'm sorry, it sounds like you've really grown accustomed to having her there and now things are changing - and change is not really a lot of fun!

I'm sorry to hear that you're so anxious about this. Perhaps you and your mom can set up special skype dates a few times a week?
I hope you feel better about this.

I'm sorry that you're having trouble about your Mom leaving to go home. This can be really upsetting, with her liviing alone being an alcoholic and beiing depressed. I agree that I'd probably worry about her too. But I doubt that you can get her to stay.

I'm a recovering alcoholic myself, and we tend to be very stubborn. We want things our way, and alcoholics are very selfish people. She would probably rather go home where she can drink as much as she wants, when she wants. With you, she probably felt like she couldn't drink ALL the time like she wanted to. She probably felt self-conscious about it. Going home, she won't feel like that -- she'll be free to do what she wants.

I'm sorry it's so upsetting. But you're going to have to let her go. There's not much you can do about it. It would be good if you went to Al-Anon meetings, and learned how to cope with a mother who is an alcoholic. It really helps, and it will put your mind at ease. I wish you the very best. God bless and please take care! Hugs, Lee