[Cr0mwell]

I had a huge fight with my boss at work about a fortnight ago - and I've been off work on the sick since then. He's a horrible, vile bullying man, but this time he caught me unprepared and something just snapped. I'm so sad and so lost. I'm due to go back on Monday - and the thought of it is just terrifying. I can't sleep - it's all just running around in my head and I have such horrible headaches from the stress.

I know that lots of people have horrible bosses - and I don't know what's so special about me that I can't put up with it. I think maybe I'm just a coward - so how shall I pluck up my courage? I can't not go back - he'd find a way to sack me.

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[oliamble]

Just think about your job man, you are not a coward. What's happens is that there will always be miserable people who try to put someone down specially when they hold power position, it is an instinct I believe of every human being.

Think about the fact that you have to report to your job because you need your paycheck and to pay off your bills. Don't look at it from the point of view of what would the boss think or if you feel intimidated by his actions.

Is there an HR dept. where you can put in a formal complaint or does he have a boss over him? Some things are so cruel specially the way corporations run, but I'm sure there are also ways you can fight back your employees rights.

Good luck in returning back to work tomorrow and post here to see how it goes.

[Leed]

Alot depends on what the fight was about. Do you feel you were right? Was he DEFINITELY WRONG? Tell us what the fight was about.

Just go in to work, and begin working like nothing has happened. Ignore your boss. If he starts on you immediately, don't say anything. Let him go on his rant -- without saying anything. The others will see what an idiot he looks like. Pretty soon he'll be over his rant, and will walk away.

Then just continue working, like nothing happened. I doubt he'll fire you right there in front of everyone, but i don't know if you have your own office, or what. Can everyone else see/hear what's going on? At least you'll have witnesses if he fires you for no good reason!

It's a shame that you two had a fight, but if he got on you for no good reason, and he's been harassing you for no good reason, you have people who have seen this going on. Then perhaps you can file a complaint. I wish you the very best of luck. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

[Cr0mwell]

Thank you so much for replying - I can't say how much it means.

I think he might have been forced to appoint me by the big boss and that's why he resents me so much. He's had a bit of a vendetta against me and my department for a while - I get excluded from meetings, he doesn't pass on information I need ( then i get into trouble for missing actions), and the big one is that decisions that affect my department are taken without letting me know.

The subject of the argument was that he has decided to sack two of my people to save money, and I have no say in it. They're both really good and don't deserve it. I worry for them both - there's so few jobs out there.

So whose fault - probably mine because I got upset and tearful. I don't believe I have any support from anyone in the organisation - my boss has been running me down for quite sometime.

I'm so angry that i could loose my job on his say so, and so sad and I can't get it together or do anything. I've never been so miserable in all my life and I can't see any solution.

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[shortandcute]

Originally Posted by Cr0mwell

I had a huge fight with my boss at work about a fortnight ago - and I've been off work on the sick since then. He's a horrible, vile bullying man, but this time he caught me unprepared and something just snapped. I'm so sad and so lost. I'm due to go back on Monday - and the thought of it is just terrifying. I can't sleep - it's all just running around in my head and I have such horrible headaches from the stress.

I know that lots of people have horrible bosses - and I don't know what's so special about me that I can't put up with it. I think maybe I'm just a coward - so how shall I pluck up my courage? I can't not go back - he'd find a way to sack me.

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I'm sorry that you are going thru all that. A lot of bosses are like that, and they often count on the fact that their employees need that paycheck. One of my sisters was my boss several years back, and she really bullied me quite a bit. The sad thing about it is that none of the other employees had any respect for me because of that--and felt free to bully me and walk all over me too. I worked in a preschool/daycare, and the kids noticed the bullying that was happening to me, too, and I had a hard time getting any of the kids to respect me. After a year and a half, I finally just blew up and walked off the job--but I'm not sure that's a good idea for everyone. (((((LOTS OF HUGS)))))