[clouds_and_sun]

Hi before I get into that I just want you all know this has nothing to do with anyone here on PC.
But just in general. See, it is my nature to be nice and kind and giving to others, it makes me feel good but sadly a lot of people take advantage of that. Being mean is not in my nature (however if I feel someone is verbally attacking me I speak up) but even then I feel rattled as I hate confortation.
It hurts so much when I get lied to or I feel that people are like "oh well she will always be there cause she is so sweet". Believe me I tried to change but it still hurts.
People get to me too much sometimes that I feel that I need to be a hermit.
It hurts to be taken advantage of.
Thanks for reading my rant

[Detia]

I can relate a little to what you're saying. I can't say that I have been taken advantage of very often in my life... But I have a lot of friends who have felt that way. I know that sometimes it's hard for the nice people and the sensitive people to build up the healthy boundaries that work to protect us a little from being hurt by the people we care about.

I'm sorry this happens a lot, hun. I hope it gets better and easier for you, you deserve better!

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by clouds_and_sun

People get to me too much sometimes that I feel that I need to be a hermit.

I wonder how many of us have become hermits for just that very reason.

((((((( Clouds_and_Sun! )))))))

[Iamhealingme]

I've been told that I love too easily? and been called Pollyanna. Used to bother me a lot. I too go through periods of time when I become a hermit. I have come to the conclusion that, yes, I am (nice) and I like me that way...this is who I am! What I have had to learn is to say no when it isn't in my best interest. I've learned when to say no by honing my instincts. We've been taught all our lives to override our instincts and play nice so we don't listen to ourselves. You can still be nice and be good to yourself. Took me awhile to learn that.

[Marla500]

I get really stressed out sometimes making a decision when I think it will affect other people. I have to take my time or I will probably guess wrong.