I just got fired tonight by my sister. Rather, I learned from my mother that my sister has told her case worker to take me off from being compensated for watching her kids while she goes to college. I’ve been watching her kids since they were born; while she went to work or went to party; I was there reluctant but willing to watch her kids. She figured since I have nothing going for me in my life naturally I’ll do since going out and meeting up with friends is supersedes being at home with your children, not to mention more fun.

Since she is going to school, and has children I have to watch her kids, so it only seemed appropriate that I get paid for it. She arranged the state to compensate me for the time I watch her kids. I did it for free for a long time, so it was nice to get paid to do it. So we did this and it was good, she would go to school, and come home late from “studying” and I’ll watch the kids. I don’t get out much, I’m not a social person; so at least with my nephews I would have something to do, and I get money to do things I want to do like go to the movies.

Tuesday, she informs me that starting next week I will have to pick up her son from the bus stop because she was starting a new class, fin I thought, just some minor adjustment to my schedule. The next day, I’m with her son helping him with his homework, and she calls me asking if I picked up her son. I told her he is with me, but that wasn’t the answer she wanted; my younger brother went to go pick him up and she wanted to confirm that I didn’t. I told her what she told me the previous day, nothing to do with that very week.

She says no, that if I had listened to her-that’s where I hung up, she tried calling me again, and texting me. But I paid no mind. In toughs texts she told me that I was being immature, and that she was going to contact her worker and take me off as her provider. I paid no mind to it, thought it was an empty threat. I told my mom as well and she thought the same thing. Now tonight, I was settling down getting ready to watch some TV, when my mom hands her new laptop and tells me I’m going to need to find a new job.
From what my mom told me, she is getting rid of me and replacing me with my brother’s girlfriend, a party girl like herself. She didn’t tell me this to my face. I honestly didn’t think she was serious, because she is always stubborn like that. But now I’m out and someone else is in, the only thing they have in common is that they like to drink. I remember this one time where my mother, my sister, and I were at dinner have a conversation about my late father, and what he would think of the situation we’re in. My sister says our father taught her to be more responsible, then turns to me and says I’m not; in spite of acknowledging that without me she wouldn’t be able to do the things she can do, in her eyes I’m not responsible.

Recently I let her borrow $100, and have yet to be paid back. After one of my brother’s friends says he gave her kids a something to eat, she questions whether I’m doing my job or not; and says that she can get someone else to do my job. The next day she knocked on my door asking me to watch her kids. Unbelievable. I was mad one time about having to watch them constantly, and my mother told me that if they couldn’t ask me, who would they ask? They don’t trust any of my brothers, and apparently my sister doesn’t trust me.

I feel betrayed, because in spite of all that she threw at me, I was there for her; and I never objected. I love my nephews and since we live in the same house, I won’t miss them. I put up with her last minute plea for me to watch her kids while she says she is going to do one thing, she goes out to socialize. I went with he most places with her kids because she asked me to, and I never objected. Hell I even took an investment in their future. For her to just discard me like that, I thought it was just talk. There were times where she defended me against my brothers’ behavior towards me, we did not get along, but we coexisted.
I had some income and contributed to the house when needed; now that’s in jeopardy. I never asked of her anything, and I gave her on several occasions. My father once said to me that she was jealous of me, because I was reaching a potential that was out of her reach because the reality of kids while young weighed on her. I helped her, now she is in college and I’m not, she has a job and I don’t. That maybe on me, but I feel that she looks down her nose at me. I try to tell her what I think and she just says she doesn’t want to argue, she’ll say that repeatedly until I give up.

Maybe I just give up, when she needs someone to watch her kid, she has someone else to do it clearly, so if she needs me; I’ll refer her to my replacement.

[Rohag]

You've put your family's needs ahead of your own for long. It would be easy to tell you to take it easy on yourself, but you are accustomed to looking out for others.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope you can find a way to relax, Andi.

Let's see how long your sister holds out before she asks you again for help of some type. You are being abused and should refuse to assist her because you are working at your own job and preparing for your own future. That should teach her a lesson she will never forget.

Stop the abuse with this most recent incident and see that it doesn't continue to
happen.

You deserve a much better living arrangement than the one you have.

Take care of yourself first; that will enable you to benefit your loved ones without having to endure the (sorry to say this) arrogance and stupidity of your sister.

[winter4me]

Originally Posted by Andi Aznaran

I just got fired tonight by my sister. Rather, I learned from my mother that my sister has told her case worker to take me off from being compensated for watching her kids while she goes to college. I’ve been watching her kids since they were born; while she went to work or went to party; I was there reluctant but willing to watch her kids. She figured since I have nothing going for me in my life naturally I’ll do since going out and meeting up with friends is supersedes being at home with your children, not to mention more fun.

Since she is going to school, and has children I have to watch her kids, so it only seemed appropriate that I get paid for it. She arranged the state to compensate me for the time I watch her kids. I did it for free for a long time, so it was nice to get paid to do it. So we did this and it was good, she would go to school, and come home late from “studying” and I’ll watch the kids. I don’t get out much, I’m not a social person; so at least with my nephews I would have something to do, and I get money to do things I want to do like go to the movies.

Tuesday, she informs me that starting next week I will have to pick up her son from the bus stop because she was starting a new class, fin I thought, just some minor adjustment to my schedule. The next day, I’m with her son helping him with his homework, and she calls me asking if I picked up her son. I told her he is with me, but that wasn’t the answer she wanted; my younger brother went to go pick him up and she wanted to confirm that I didn’t. I told her what she told me the previous day, nothing to do with that very week.

She says no, that if I had listened to her-that’s where I hung up, she tried calling me again, and texting me. But I paid no mind. In toughs texts she told me that I was being immature, and that she was going to contact her worker and take me off as her provider. I paid no mind to it, thought it was an empty threat. I told my mom as well and she thought the same thing. Now tonight, I was settling down getting ready to watch some TV, when my mom hands her new laptop and tells me I’m going to need to find a new job.
From what my mom told me, she is getting rid of me and replacing me with my brother’s girlfriend, a party girl like herself. She didn’t tell me this to my face. I honestly didn’t think she was serious, because she is always stubborn like that. But now I’m out and someone else is in, the only thing they have in common is that they like to drink. I remember this one time where my mother, my sister, and I were at dinner have a conversation about my late father, and what he would think of the situation we’re in. My sister says our father taught her to be more responsible, then turns to me and says I’m not; in spite of acknowledging that without me she wouldn’t be able to do the things she can do, in her eyes I’m not responsible.

Recently I let her borrow $100, and have yet to be paid back. After one of my brother’s friends says he gave her kids a something to eat, she questions whether I’m doing my job or not; and says that she can get someone else to do my job. The next day she knocked on my door asking me to watch her kids. Unbelievable. I was mad one time about having to watch them constantly, and my mother told me that if they couldn’t ask me, who would they ask? They don’t trust any of my brothers, and apparently my sister doesn’t trust me.

I feel betrayed, because in spite of all that she threw at me, I was there for her; and I never objected. I love my nephews and since we live in the same house, I won’t miss them. I put up with her last minute plea for me to watch her kids while she says she is going to do one thing, she goes out to socialize. I went with he most places with her kids because she asked me to, and I never objected. Hell I even took an investment in their future. For her to just discard me like that, I thought it was just talk. There were times where she defended me against my brothers’ behavior towards me, we did not get along, but we coexisted.
I had some income and contributed to the house when needed; now that’s in jeopardy. I never asked of her anything, and I gave her on several occasions. My father once said to me that she was jealous of me, because I was reaching a potential that was out of her reach because the reality of kids while young weighed on her. I helped her, now she is in college and I’m not, she has a job and I don’t. That maybe on me, but I feel that she looks down her nose at me. I try to tell her what I think and she just says she doesn’t want to argue, she’ll say that repeatedly until I give up.

Maybe I just give up, when she needs someone to watch her kid, she has someone else to do it clearly, so if she needs me; I’ll refer her to my replacement.

You need to get out of there. Believe me. Whatever it takes. I know the devil you know... but truly. It sounds painful at its best, and you can't imagine the pressure cooker you live in until you leave it. No, it won't be easy if you decide to go----but it will be worthwhile in time...you will need to create a place for yourself to be social (some group that is a place for you to be/do but not one that requires constant giving---it has to be For you...) otherwise loneliness may drive you home or underground...run i say run....(unless you are still in high school--if so, spend time there in extra-curricula activities)

[JayJay2]

Your sister has been using you and doesn't care about your feelings. I am sorry to hear that.
I have disowned my family. They thought I was a scapegoat and would accuse me of being insane and other things despite the fact that I only have Asperger Syndrome and PTSD and they are drinkers who sleep with each others partners.

[Leed]

It's obvious to me that your sister doesn't really care much for her children if she's leaving them with a "party girl." I have a feeling that this "party girl" will be doing a little more than watching her kids!

If I were you, I would NOT bend to her wishes any more. If she needs your help, do what you said, and refer her to your replacement. Don't weaken and help her -- she OBVIOUSLY does NOT appreciate you!! I'm sure she's going to wish she hadn't "fired" you, but that's too darn bad!

I'd just stay away from her, and tell her to go fly a kite. LOL God bless you -- you've been a good brother. Hugs, Lee

[montanan4ever]

I agree with the others who have said that you are being abused. Please get out of that situation. She will guilt you and use the children as bait. Be prepared. If you believe the children are unsafe, file a report with CPS. Don't further enable this behavior, and don't set yourself up for further mistreatment.