["Tilly may"]

On Saturday my best friend came over. I invited her because she was feeling anxiety about her son getting hurt in a hockey game. I listened intently and supported her feelings even though I was feeling depressed. This is probably the 5th or 6th time I have listened to the hockey beat up story involving her son.
I offered her a beer and we listened to a cd on my computer. then i began to tell her about my discovery of psych central. She smiled and then laughed. I said forget it, you obviously think its funny.

i didnt make a big deal out of it, but i feel really like she is so ignorant about mental illness that i will never talk to her again about it. I cannot rely on her for support and feel too vulnerable to ever mention it. This event is making me feel like not even being her friend anymore. Im so dissappointed.

[optimize990h]

Originally Posted by "Tilly may"

On Saturday my best friend came over. I invited her because she was feeling anxiety about her son getting hurt in a hockey game. I listened intently and supported her feelings even though I was feeling depressed. This is probably the 5th or 6th time I have listened to the hockey beat up story involving her son.
I offered her a beer and we listened to a cd on my computer. then i began to tell her about my discovery of psych central. She smiled and then laughed. I said forget it, you obviously think its funny.

i didnt make a big deal out of it, but i feel really like she is so ignorant about mental illness that i will never talk to her again about it. I cannot rely on her for support and feel too vulnerable to ever mention it. This event is making me feel like not even being her friend anymore. Im so dissappointed.

My pdoc and counsellor did not have a positive response to Internet forums, either. I don't have rl friends to talk to about PC. Take care.

[pegasus]

It could be nervous laughter, maybe over time you can let her know how helpful the site is. You don't have to have a mental health problem to come here, some people come to make friends, share or help others.

[RJ78]

Hey Tilly, that's certainly disappointing, but I agree with Pegasus, people laugh for all kinds of reasons. Of course, you know her best so you could've picked up on something, but I have a couple friends that I can never completely understand when they laugh. You sound like a good friend, have there been other instances of this type of behaviour?

RJ

[unaluna]

I was gonna say, what do you expect, she's a hockey mom, then I remembered my T is a hockey dad and still plays himself! AND he thinks psych central is great. My human friends think I spend too much time here and maybe I do, but I think they could spend more time in therapy, so...! That is disturbing that she laughed, but I think this is a quality site. It's like group therapy available whenever you want it.

[NoCake]

Yeah that's really weird...

[TheRealFDeal]

I would feel disappointed too, if I felt like I could not share everything with my best friend and not feel judged. Maybe she would feel bad and apologize if you told her how you felt about being laughed at.

["Tilly may"]

thanks for all of your replies. I think its a great site too and is great therapy and maybe i will make some friends here. I texted her that she shouldnt have laughed at me. She said "oh sorry". later she texted that it was nervous laughter.

I think it hurt more because she is my closest friend and we talk every day. I just expected that she would understand.Ii dont want to ever talk to her about depression or being bipolar or anything ever again. But I still want her friendship, it just feels less special now.

[Ladyzero]

I'd simply say
'look it up sometime, and read, what it's all about'
Real people, real life, real issues, real pain, real stories, and real triumphs. Real advice, real opinions, real recipes, real sadness, real joy. Real ups and real downs.
Ignorance and nerves do funny things to people, am sure there's a post somewhere on here about it !

While my ex-wife is supportive of my issues, she still makes snide remarks about them and mental illnesses in general when she is angry or thinks its just an excuse.
Some people just don't get some things...so don't lose a friend over it (unless you think you really SHOULD) and you can vent or share with us instead!
I don't talk to many people about it, just the ones who are on meds of their own! Then we talk the talk, know what i mean?
Sorry about your friends laughter...insensitive to say the least...but don't let it get you down...we love you!

[avlady]

Maybe she laughed because she thought you were a person who doesn't need it, and the thought of it was funny to wondering why

["Tilly may"]

Wow Spirit Thanks

[ECHOES]

Originally Posted by "Tilly may"

On Saturday my best friend came over. I invited her because she was feeling anxiety about her son getting hurt in a hockey game. I listened intently and supported her feelings even though I was feeling depressed. This is probably the 5th or 6th time I have listened to the hockey beat up story involving her son.
I offered her a beer and we listened to a cd on my computer. then i began to tell her about my discovery of psych central. She smiled and then laughed. I said forget it, you obviously think its funny.

i didnt make a big deal out of it, but i feel really like she is so ignorant about mental illness that i will never talk to her again about it. I cannot rely on her for support and feel too vulnerable to ever mention it. This event is making me feel like not even being her friend anymore. Im so dissappointed.

I'm sorry your feelings were hurt by her laughing.
Her reaction doesn't get to be something that takes away from PC being a helpful place for you That's okay. That's about her. You like it here and she has no clue because she doesn't know what it's about.

People laugh for many reasons, including anxiety/nervousness, so maybe that was going on. Or possibly it was such a novel idea, a site like this, that she found it hard to be credible. That's okay. That's about her. You like it here and she has no clue because she doesn't know what it's about.

People find comfort and support in many places. That day, you were her comfort and support and perhaps her thinking of getting that someplace else isn't what she wants. That's okay. That's about her. You like it here and she has no clue because she doesn't know what it's about.

So, I'm sorry that your feelings were hurt and that she didn't understand how generous you were being to share about PC and yourself with her.