MEN...

I dont understand how this works
you message the girl and act as though you really feel for her
then all of the sudden theres no talking at all or asking to go on a date
then when there is, the date never happens!
im so sick of feeling like this... its really dragging me down...
I feel like i cannot count on anyone lately.
Im probably better off by myself.. whenever i need someone theres nobody there, oh but they want to talk to you as soon as they want something from you.

angela_baby96, hey girl, it does not go well? Letting off some tension?

Gotta get mutual attraction
Not just a temporary distraction...

ive just recieved nothing but bad news this week, and the only person i want to see who can make me feel better probably doesnt want to see me... as it seems theyre not really making an effort to
It just makes me really sad.. feels really lonely..

I' m sorry about your circumstances. Just checking to make sure that this PC member is acknowledging and how you feel

I'm in the same boat with the guy I'm into. Its frustrating, I know. Can you ask him about it in person?

haha id rather just ignore him so when he wants something and im not there, he will know how it feels...

Hi Angela,

Yeah, that sucks! I just told one of my good friends that I was into her and she is too, but she isn't emotionally available now. Instead of waiting on her and putting myself in an emotionally damaging situation (which I did for a couple days), I decided to stay connected to myself and my own well-being. Though it's still very, very difficult for me, I'm better able to avoid situations that will lead to unsustainable emotional connections.

Good luck,

RJ

This guy waited on me haha! which i find absolutely ironic

Is it men you're chasing, or boys?

I can sympathize. I've never had good luck with any man. And the ones that I really fall for are the ones I can't have.

I've kinda had the same problem with girls. I either didn't have the balls to pull the trigger on the ones I liked or I drive away the ones I like. It's tough to maintain normal relationships when you're dealing with stuff. I know I am not doing it right.

Watch out for creating a vicious cycle---self-fulfilling...

LOL men if you base it on age number! maturity level: boys.

im not very cruel.. i wouldnt be able to keep it up for very long i know this lol

Same here for me. It's been that way for me with women. I feel like it's never going to change for me, no matter how hard I try. Oh well!

do not worry angela i am here online for you you are not alone. have pen friends. thats what i do to cope with depression.

Men and women both play their games as they do, it's kind of miraculous that either party ever end up getting together.

What women want most is obvious: love, respect, compassion, romance and attention.
What men want most is obvious: love, independence, compassion and their hobbies.

This probably stems from biological evolution, men instinctively want to avoid being tied down to one woman because it's more beneficial for them to "spread their seed". Conversely, women must foster and carry any offspring, thus the commitment is much more serious for them and they have more to gain from keeping one man. The aforementioned happens on a subconscious level.

To answer your question, men are typically aloof for any of a few of reasons:
- He's testing the waters and perhaps has his eye on more than one woman
- He's too shy to make a commitment or be honest about wanting one.
- He doesn't want a commitment because he doesn't "feel" like one at this point in his life.

That being said, I'm likely horrible with relationships considering I've never had a gf @ 24, haha. Regardless, the insight into how people behave when courting and getting into a relationship seems somewhat apparent, yet both parties are often oblivious, it would seem, to the other party's intentions/desires.

This is only a suggestion and I dont know your age but, you might benefit by separating the men from the boys. No one is perfect but men are mature enough to follow through and take into consideration other peoples feelings. Boys can be a lot more fun, but you see what you get. Its good to know you arent the cruel type and wouldnt feed a negative cycle.