[Cooljo123]

Hello! This is a receipt for a question you recently asked at allexperts.com, in category Dealing with Depression. Most of our questions were answered in 3 days. Thanks for using our service!

Your question was

"Hi ... I am 31 and I live in India , I am married with no kids to a wonderful. Man who is on the merchant navy he is away for 6 Months *and *is back for 4 . I am a teacher , lives with my in-laws for the last 3 years and everything seems to be fine on tha front . Over the last two weeks I am feeling sad , just sad ... It has not affected my sleep , food intake or work. In any way ... I am just bugged ... Even though my house chores get done ... *I am bugged .. I am in touch with my friends and talk to my mom every secod day .recently my mom in law went to china and it's only my dad in law and me . My husband who used to write regularly has stopped writing as his ships comp is not working .

Sometimes I just lie down on my bed and dream ... Or stare at the ceiling .. *I am in a process of spring cleaning the house and I now am just postponeing the whole thing . I am social and went out for easter lunch today . I am having a normal life .. But some where down there I am bugged ... Is it that I am missing my family . I have not gone home or had a holiday in a couple of months .. It has been work and home . And now school is closing. For the summer . I have not seen my husband for the last 6 months . Is it that I miss my family , or am feeling lonely ... Or is it that I am depressed or just bugged.

Please. Help

[Leed]

Hi ~ I figure it's a combination of all of it. I'm sure you're somewhat depressed, but I'm also sure you miss your husband and family. It's hard to live the way you do. Anyone would feel "down" when they haven't seen their husband for 6 months! And this is probably going to be a "normal" thing for you.

Can you go see your family? When is your husband coming home? If he's not coming home for awhile, why not go see your family? I would. I'm sure it would make you feel better just being around people who love you! Go ahead and go!

When you get back home, I'm sure you'll feel better. And if you don't, then you'll know that you have some depression. I wish you the very best. Please keep in touch with us. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

[pantera4420]

Depression can sneak up on you without you even realizing it. You are definitely showing signs of it. I would speak with your doc about it.

[Sam2]

Being married to a military man has got to be difficult. Especially in the times we live in. Six months is a long time to be away from someone you love.

Do you have friends where you presently live? I've never been in the military, but being assigned to different countries has to be confusing. The cultures change, you are only there for a certain time, so once you do make friends, the navy sends you elsewhere.

Leed has a good point about going to see your family. Since you are not in work for the summer, there is no reason to hang around by yourself. I don't think you are lazy. Visiting family may be exactly what you need to get yourself back on your feet again.

I am grateful that we have people like you and your husband. You may not be directly protecting the country, but you are backing someone who is. Without people like you and your husband, we would not have a country.

Sam2

[CharactorAssassin]

if a very big and strong giant has more physically. But the man is also expected to do a lot more. People will take advantage of this. If this big man refuses to be taken advantage because he is tired of being a giant he will be labelled lazy. Is it fair?

I don't think it's laziness really. If you have depression it's just harder to get motivated. You lose the spark that gets you going. But you do have to try harder to overcome that or it will overcome you. Good luck