[therealme]

with everything that is going on in my real life , im feeling very low.
but i have to look strong for my family, even thou inside im falling apart. what is happening i hear you ask... well here goes
my son had a baby with a girl who i think is unstable, and as my son has adhd , social services were involved .
at first they were all living with us, which was a nightmare as having a new mother ( who wanted to do everything on her own) and a grandmother (who wanted to help) . as you can imagine there were arguements . so after 6 weeks my grandson and his mother were placed in a foster placement , my son had visitation there about 3 times a week.
this was hard on everyone as the mother arguing with my son, and got him to move out of his home here with us and back to her flat. which wasnt the best idea as he wasnt taking his medication .
after a while my grandson and his mother moved to another placement which was ment to allow my son to move in with his son and girlfriend, but a day before he was due to move in with them his girlfriend ended the relaitionship .
social services suggested that this was for the best, my son then moved back in with his mum and dad (my wife and i)
after another 8 weeks , my grandson and his mother moved to another foster placement ( why all the placements i hear you ask, as i see it social services have a lot of issues with the way she looks after my grandson)
while she was there she lied to the foster family and meet up with my son, and the long and short of it , she accused my son of rape.... this was the final straw for me, my heart sank and my depression hit a all time low.
we are nowback and forth to court becuase social services are fighting for my grandson. they were looking at the family to take care of my grandson but now they are looking at adopting .......
that is why my life sucks and im now even more depressed then ever

[pegasus]

So sorry trm, I hope you will still be able to visit your grandson?

[therealme]

if it goes to adoption , then we only get letterbox contact......... which is a letter once or twice a year .so not that good realy

[Rifle]

Hello sorry to hear this. I'm not in your shoes and don't fully understand the situation but what I can say is take it slow and one day at a time. Good luck!

[allimsaying]

I dont know how things work there in the UK Trm, Im sure youve looked at every option, but I think if this were in the states, grandparents would have some rights too. Now that they are saying it might have been a case of rape, that could change things. It seems to me that bringing up rape now, after the paternal side is involved and invested emotionally as much as financially, is something social services would look at, but in a balanced way, not just believing only one side. I know the system here isnt ideal and there are unhappy feelings from decisions that get made outside the familys wishes.

I think what (((sabby)))) said to ((kathyryn))) on the other thread is the best advice I see for you right now. Keep the love you feel for everyone alive, you cant know how things might turn out but you have to prepare for a few results you believe you can control. One of those is the love you will feel for all of your family despite any negative outcomes from this. Sending you and the family strength and hope.

[justmemaybe]

(((((((((((((dec)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Know I care...
we will talk elsewheres.
Love you brother dear

[Fuzzybear]

((((((( trm )))))))

[therealme]

nice to see the hula hula bear dancing for me ! ....lol