[datguy2point9]

I feel I need to vent everything as much as possible to make sure someone can try helping.

I have to identify that I am actually seeing a psychologist and have been for a couple of years due to some life problems. Its hard for me to deal with certain issues like the one I will vent about.

Today marks 1 week from the day my ex broke my heart. I take relationships very seriously but this one felt right. We may have rushed into things but it nevertheless felt as if we would get somewhere.

I have discussed everything with my therapist but I feel I have some extra baggage..I guess. The relationship was with a girl who I knew from a dating website.

She said she dumped me due to the fact that I am "emotional and a girl". I do get emotional but I dont cry my eyes out. I tend to talk about feelings to a girl..because feelings are a part of me. I believe it makes for a decent connection with a girl and also..I am not good at hiding how I really feel. It always just comes out (just like I am doing here).

By the way, I am 24 and currently looking for a job.

Anyway, I have been with some girls in my life..I have been dating for a couple years now.

I dont think I have self esteem issues ..but again, I may be wrong. I do know that I am likable, that I look good and that I can get someone else (it just may take sometime).

I feel as if the girl did not give me a true chance..she started to pick at flaws and just left.

The main issue aside from me apparently being "emotional" is she thought I was not as social as she was..and thought it would be an issue for us in the future.

It is true, I am introverted..but I do have some friends.

Right this moment, I am at home, looking for a job and have family around. I am trying to pass the time but it hurts because I am constantly thinking about losing her.

I know I have the rest of my life ahead of me, I have a rewarding career to start, and I have a loving family around. There are tons of positives around me.

I think we all know, we will not always be 100% positive on some days. Sometimes we have our bad days, which is what she didn't like. To me, honestly it seemed immature of her.

I am trying my best to move on. I feel that being introverted has its negatives when it comes to times like this. I had struggled with the issue of dependency in the past...and today this may be the same thing.

How am I trying to move on? I am trying to simply pass the time by watching movies, calling cousins to talk to, trying to talk to some of my friends, trying to watch sports, and looking for jobs.

I had told my therapist, I feel I need to try and forget her. Its difficult to do, of course this will take time.

Being introverted has given me some issues which I still struggle with. I complained a couple days ago (its been only a week the breakup happened) that I didn't have friends and I wish I could hang out with some buddies for some drinks or something.

If she really loved me she would have helped me get through the tough times...so now I feel she wasn't worth it.

I hope to meet someone who will support me through my tough times..but also..accept me for being a bit emotional.

Maybe, the blunt truth is, she wasnt the one and I will find someone who suits me better; but I somehow, need to let my feelings out, rather than keep it in (in a relationship).

I have talked to cousins and friends, and they say I may need to try and hold stuff back sometimes. I just, find it to be hard to do that.

Can I please have some constructive feed back.

Thank you.

[Rohag]

Hello & Welcome, Datguy2point9.

Even if it's for the best, personal rejection sharpens the pangs of depression. You already understand you need to grieve the relationship and that this will take some time. Has your therapist suggested anything you are not already doing to take the edge off the pain?

Wishing you well, especially in the job search.

[kaliope]

Hi datguy2point9
Welcome to Psych Central. I am sorry that you are struggling so right now. It is difficult when others dont understand our emotions. but it sounds like you are taking care of yourself in the best way possible. Perhaps posting in the Relationships and Communication forum would get you more responses and support. Again, welcome.