[AV747]

During deep depression is very difficult to communicate, so many people tear links with the outside world and remain alone. But may be in your life, there is one or a few close people able to support you in the difficult period. But the question is - what is the difference between these people from all others, because in the absence of depression, you can freely communicate with many people.
Any communication, whether we like it or not, implies game, which according to various estimates are of the order of 70-90% communications. In these games, there is a specific script, remuneration, goal and clear rules. But a person in depression no energy at familiar game. His "I" loses its shape is not in vain, during the depression, justifying their behavior, people say: "Sorry, I'm not in form, and in case of severe depression even: "I've lost my "I". Depressive "I" deflates like a balloon and the numerous paths cut on it as on the disc, rubbing, and needle jumps from one to another. What words should I say now what kind of face I should be, as I usually did in this situation? Here are the questions are not answered.
When you are depressed, you can help people, who will not play games with you and will take you completely, not appreciating what you now that you say and do. All disputes between you and other people around arise because in their minds there are certain expectations about your behavior, and if you don't meet those expectations, a conflict occurs. When people's minds are free from the expectations and assessments (which, alas, is extremely rare), you accept completely. If I don't have expectations, you and I accept you any, then what could be the problem? You have now a terrible mood, and energy is so low that you can't say " well, I'll accept you as such. Take it for granted - are not going to ask questions and look for an explanation. If the depression lasts six months - then I will accept you for 180 times.
Very well, if your life is a man who understands and accepts you, not only in a state of peace and harmony, but in a state of depression. Severe depression affect almost all the personal sphere, and others not so easy to accept it. Not all realize that depression is not just a weakness, but a disease. Unfortunately, depressed, you often are not able to Express his gratitude - where to find the most simple words, when only emptiness inside. Don't blame yourself for it. Any depression ever end and then you are sure to thank him.
When depression is one of the partners is a difficult test for both. Not everything is kept, that is why the probability of divorce in families with one depressive partner increases in 10 times, and it's a very impressive record. The results of numerous tests carried out with those who spent some time speaking with a person who is depressed, talk about only this communication does not pass without a trace. Often people try to influence the situation: to rouse the person to change his unilateral "black" vision of the world. But more often it does not. On the contrary, this often leads to the opposite result, and the person, feeling of inferiority, even more closed in itself. And those who tried to help, in turn, appears a feeling of confusion, confidence in their own abilities.
If your loved was in the depression, then you will probably want to prove to him that the world was really beautiful. But whose peace? And if for you the sun bright and warm, it does not mean that it is the same for all the others. The point is that we see the world not with the eyes, the eyes are just eyepieces, which with the help of sensory channels are connected with certain parts of the brain, which are responsible for perception. Depression alters the normal course of chemical processes in the brain, and the world becomes gray. This is not an epithet, it literally - in depression the world is perceived in grayscale.
And if you will say: «Look, how wonderful it» - you'll only talk about his world, his feelings. And even if he looks at the world and struggling to try to feel what you say, it will lead to the opposite result. In connection with nosing system of perception, it is physically not able to do it, the sun will pale yellow, sounds dull, and the smells of - fresh. Then he'll think he's not like you and the rest of the people that will only increase his depression and alienate you from each other. Try to understand that your and his worlds, which are projected on the retina of the eye, very different from each other.

[allimsaying]

Its very true that we see the world differently from each other AV. It isnt easy just to be told the world is beautiful and see it that way when you're depressed. Patience and love and kindness is what it takes to beat depression. Thanks for putting this out here

[AV747]

i want that each human has kind and care partner.

[allimsaying]

Thats so sweet (((AV)))) That would really help a lot of us I think.

[Poppy Princess]

I'd rather not have anyone at this point. It'd be so much easier to kill myself.

[AV747]

Originally Posted by Poppy Princess

I'd rather not have anyone at this point. It'd be so much easier to kill myself.

Be strong! you can i am know!

I don't think there's any question about some members of society who "play games" with language or any other form of communication, but the truth is that games are engaged in by ineffectual people and they are destructive to people who engage in them.

In my view, only the psychopath can play games and win for a short period.
In the long run, he/she becomes an absolute failure in using tricks and deceit.
I think that's why one psychiatrist told me that they don't ever see psychopaths in their offices; they just continue to live ineffective lives.

Never manage your social relationships by playing games; they will backfire on you in the long run. Deal honestly, tactfully, sincerely. That's the only way your own conscience will tolerate social interactions for the long run.

There will be incompatibilities along the way as there are in everything, but
the solid way to good social relations is an honest and cordial but careful
presentation of yourself, your thoughts, and your actions. That's the real
winner in the long run.

You will find yourself being respected and thought highly of for years to come.