[robflee23]

i feel like im going off the deep end here. i shouldnt have to want this need for affection should i?

I think this is something that most of us want / need.

The important thing is to know how to love and care about ourselves.

That way we've always got it ... Even when it isn't available from outside sources.

[Sam2]

We are social creatures. It is very natural to want to find someone who is special that makes us feel complete. Looking for love doesn't always work. Sometimes it just has to find you.

Not that you would, but don't be tempted to take the first guy that seems nice. Getting into a relationship simply because you don't want to be alone or because its expected will backfire on you.

Before you start thinking about a relationship, make sure that your head is on straight and your self esteem is decent. Going into a relationship when you are depressed or don't feel good about yourself is also not a good idea. Relationships take work to make them strong. Its one thing if you are already in a strong relationship when a problem hits, and thats hard enough, but trying to start one then is disaterous.

Sam2

[robflee23]

the problem is idk what to do to bring my confidence level up or be happy with myself. i tried exercising but that only lasted literally a couple months then i didnt have the motivation or energy to do it anymore. everywhere i look i cant get the thought of finding a girlfriend out of my head. its like a parasite that keeps growing and growing and isnt stopping. this has been going on for 2 years straight now.

[Clara22]

hi Robflee,
I am very sorry you feel so low. I wish I could send you good vibes at distance, so you feel better. I do not know how to say this, but sometimes it works for me what Francis said "I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console;
to be understood, as to understand;
to be loved, as to love..."
I know by my own experience that it is difficult to get out of ourselves to reach others when we are in pain. But anyway, even if you just look to comfort a stranger, in my experience, you can generate some dynamics around you and sooner or later somebody special may come to encounter you. Of course, you may have to reach out others without great expectations, just for the sake of doing it. just to try something new.
IMO, in addition to our individual medical conditions, the world is not a good place today because people are too closed to the others, we are taught to be individualistic, we are taught to sell ourselves, to market ourselves, we scrutinize ourselves as we were merchandise, we feel very unhappy because we find ourselves not to be good enough. Sometimes, reaching out can be a way of getting through. Think about it. I wish you the best