rock botom i think

Today my life hit rock bottom, i hope. I was served with a restraining order from my ex and it keeps me from seeing my son. All the crap she put in it was a lie. and befor she did this she sent my son 600 miles away with out my permition. There is nothing i can do but wate till the hearing. I just want out of this life. I don't want to deal with this anymore. Just end it...

so sorry alf about your son being so far away...please take care of yourself for his sake...hopefully you will get visitation rights after the hearing...good luck to you!!

i am hoping so, but if she gets her wish i will have nothing to do with him. and if that happens i don't know how i will deal with it. i can't handle much more

Hang in there, your son deserves his father, and have you thought about counseling to help deal with these feelings? Remember, ending it is pretty permanant, and then your son will not get a chance to know you, and I am sure you are worth knowing

Hang in there! I know it must be a hard situation to be in but the best thing you can do is just hang in there and try your best to take care of yourself. I hope that things get better for you soon!

it sounds like there is no justice in what she (your ex) is doing to you. its not fair for her to use your son as a weapon to get at you for whatever reason. may i ask, how old is your son?

in time your son will want to know his dad, and she cant stop him doing that. a restraining order might be in place for a little while but when he grows up and wants to know his dad, how hard do you think it will be for her to stop him, it will be impossible. shes only making it worse for herself.

i know this might not help, but maybe you could use the time that you wont be spending with your son for a good cause. i mean, you could go to councilling/therapy, work on becoming healthier/happier, and it will help you realise your own dreams and desires. obviously your son will be part of that which is good, but it may be other things too. i hope im making sense, not sure i am!

sometimes you have to hit rock bottom before you can start the rise back up. you will bounce back, im sure of it. and your son will be waiting for you when you do too. it wont be a quick thing, it could take years. im sure you dont want your son to see you in this situation. so for a little while, try therapy and work your way out of depression etc. your ex may see the errors of her way soon enough and let you see him. you just dont know whats around the corner.

i wish you all the best and i really hope things work out for you. im sure they will soon enough.

take care and remember, we are all still here for you.

simon

he is just over 1 year old and as she poots it he is youn enough to for get me

he wont forget you, he might do as hes young, but as he gets older he is going to want to know who his dad is. just keep at it alf, you'll get to see him again. im sure of it.

Most kids will wonder who there real dad is when they get older, like Simon mentioned. I can't imagine how hard it must be to lose a child... I really hope it doesn't have to turn out that way... Man this is a toughie! All I can do is give you a hug and at this point it seems such a small gesture, but your story have troubled me and I will be thinking of you today...

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