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Sep 30, 2006 at 10:43 AM
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I feel that I am being haunted by my past again. I can't seem to stop thinking about it. This whole thing working with my inner child has turned on my thinking motor again and now I end up staying up all night thinking about my past. It makes me sad and depressed. I want it to stop. What should I do?
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Sep 30, 2006 at 10:57 AM
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you need to deal with the memories/thoughts you have of your past. was it a trauma you are remembering? is it a bad experience/bad experiences.
sometimes our mind can make us think of something because you are now ready to deal with it. it is usually a bad memory or experience. talking about them will help it stop. but dont be scared of them, memories cannot hurt you. you have survived the actual events, so memories of it will be harmless. i am sure our minds know when we are strong enough to confront things from our past, so we just need to embrace them and deal with them accordingly. hope that helps simon |
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Sep 30, 2006 at 11:20 AM
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I agree with Simon.. i know its unsettling to be having to deal with it all but the end result is well worth the work..
Like he said. memories can't hurt you.. not really... let them come.. face them.. cry.. yell.. punch pillows.. whatever emotions are stirred with the memories... it will be okay!You can do this! You are already a survivor! You are not alone ... its time to take another step in the healing process...and you have friends here to hold your hand. Peace.. Faith __________________ Faith is daring the soul to go beyond what the eyes can see. |
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Sep 30, 2006 at 11:28 AM
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It's so hard. I have delt with my past several times already. The more I do this the more things arise for me to deal with. Also means more sleepless nights I have too.
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Sep 30, 2006 at 02:23 PM
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It wont be this hard forever, i promise.
more is coming to surface because it is now time to deal with them. simon |
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Sep 30, 2006 at 04:14 PM
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Yes, it's very hard; but you have to work with it all and get the bad stuff out of there. Like working on cleaning a wound if you're medically inclined. It hurts when you have to scrub a wound but it's necessary to get all the dirt out, not just "most of it" or it will get infected.
Trust "yourself" to know when to rest. Your body will take time off if your head is not able to. All things ebb and flow, feelings, thoughts, ideas, sleep :-) Hope you get some rest soon. __________________ "Never give a sword to a man who can't dance." ~Confucius |
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Oct 01, 2006 at 12:11 AM
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I'm going through it too, but weirdly enough, I keep having flashbacks, but actually feel better the day after I released so many negative images. If the child is speaking, listen - write it down - that is helping me...
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Oct 01, 2006 at 01:11 AM
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I end up sleeping most of the day away though because my depression makes me so sleepy. That's not going to help me to heal the inner child if I'm sleeping constantly. Wich is another problem. I have to be able to stay awake to do my homework and go to classes. It's hard to stay awake that long especially between taking allergy medicine and having depression. The two just don't mix very well.
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Oct 01, 2006 at 01:50 AM
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hang in there. Flashbacks and feeling those emotions that you did when you were a child is not easy. I know I go through lots of flashbacks.
What helps me is writing them down, then doing something calming like taking a bath, listening to music, taking a walk, going for a bike ride, calling a friend or my therapist. Hang in there it does get better. |
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Oct 01, 2006 at 01:50 AM
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Please do share this with your T...the sleeplessness and ruminating. It could be you are still going too fast in therapy, and need to slow down some. (I know it might seem that you are going slowly, but when the result is upsetting your life so much, it might be too fast.)
Of course, with therapy they has to be some affect, or it isn't therapy imo. But you seem to be contending with so much right now, perhaps wait until you are feeling better physically, and back on a good sleep cycle before delving more into the past experiences? 
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Oct 01, 2006 at 01:51 AM
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Please do share this with your T...the sleeplessness and ruminating. It could be you are still going too fast in therapy, and need to slow down some. (I know it might seem that you are going slowly, but when the result is upsetting your life so much, it might be too fast.)
Of course, with therapy there has to be some affect, or it isn't therapy imo. But you seem to be contending with so much right now, perhaps wait until you are feeling better physically, and back on a good sleep cycle before delving more into the past experiences?
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Oct 01, 2006 at 11:25 AM
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I was planning on telling my therapist about all this because I feel that I need a break from it. I'm going to tell her that it's too much to work on it every week like we have been, and that I need a break from it. Any way, I'm going to go to church so I need to get ready! Thanks for your replies and for helping me.
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