[Fuzzybear]

Somebody asked me how to make friends on here

um.....

1. Be yourself, if you know who she or he is.

2. practise random acts of hugginess?

3. Try to inject a little humour? In pm if not for the whole world to see (?)

4. Practise empathy (and develop more empathy as you work on your own issues)

5. Be a friend.

Any other thoughts?

[Gus1234U]

{{{HUG}}} people who hug
don't hug people who don't hug
share the 'good' times
admit to having the 'bad times'
try not to take things personal.

the one piece of advice i ever took on friendships is this:
to have a friend, be a friend.

[gayleggg]

I think you gave some great advise.

[ToeJam]

Be friendly

[bronzeowl]

Sounds like sound advice to me. I do all that on here... so, this was the opposite of triggering to me. Actually made me feel like I'm not so inadequate, after all.

Thank you Fuzzy. I think everyone needs to here that.

[happy 2 b here]

I have alwyas tried to be a friend -- and for the most part have been very successful

Recently, though I have been told I don't know how to be a friend -- as I was being myself -- what else can we be--friendly, supportive, understanding, empathetic, caring, sharing -- did I leave anything out -- if so, please explain, as I am at a total loss

[Fuzzybear]

I don't know the situation, but it sounds like you need to let this go. Nobody will be "accepted" by everybody and it will hurt more for us HSP people, to be rejected by someone we cared about (maybe work on the part of the Four Agreements, to not take things personally)
sending gentle hugs

Originally Posted by happy 2 b here

I have alwyas tried to be a friend -- and for the most part have been very successful

Recently, though I have been told I don't know how to be a friend -- as I was being myself -- what else can we be--friendly, supportive, understanding, empathetic, caring, sharing -- did I leave anything out -- if so, please explain, as I am at a total loss

[happy 2 b here]

Thanks, Fuzzybear -- good advice and I will work on that!

[ToeJam]

Sorry, what is HSP or the 4 agreements?

With regards to happy 2 b here, I agree with fuzzy. Additionally though if it was from someone close then perhaps they themselves are having problems and lashed out. We can't read minds (sadly) and as such we can't get it right all of the time or judge where someone else is at.

Keep being yourself... The words of one person does not define you

[Fuzzybear]

I just PMd you

Originally Posted by ToeJam

Sorry, what is HSP or the 4 agreements?

[happy 2 b here]

Hi and thank you, TJ

HSP -- highly sensitive person

The 4 Agreements -- written by Don Miguel Ruiz

1) Be impeccable with your words

2) Don't take anything personally

3) Don't make assumptions

4) Always do your best

[roads]

What a wonderful thread--so much caring and wisdom!
This is the essence of what I found at PsychCentral
when I came two yrs ago.
Roadie

[anneo59]

love TFAs. Thanks, Fuzzy

[anneo59]

Originally Posted by Roadie

What a wonderful thread--so much caring and wisdom!
This is the essence of what I found at PsychCentral
when I came two yrs ago.
Roadie

Absolutely agreed, Roadie. Take care you and all my PC friends and those I've yet to meet! This is an awesome group of people!!!!!

[Fuzzybear]