[GreyThinker]

Hi everyone,

I'm not a regular poster but I come here to read a lot. I used to comment but when I am feeling low I find I can't say anything helpful, and as I have been that way a while now that is why I don't chat much. However... I have an issue and even though I don't contribute much I was wondering if others might have useful things to say. I find I am seriously hating on myself lately, and it is starting to spill over into the relationships I haven't already destroyed. Is there anything I can do to stop the bad thoughts? Thanks so much for anyone who replies.

GreyThinker.

[Parapixine]

Hey GreyThinker,

I can't offer much advice but when I'm at my worst I usually just listen to any heavy music really loud on my headphones until my mind goes blank. It makes it pretty much impossible to have any of your own thoughts, so by the time you go to meet up with friends, your mind is more or less neutral, I know its not ideal or a real solution and it takes up a lot of the day but it works temporarily but for me it makes it easier to have fun when I go out as my mood is already a bit lifted, maybe it can help you too?

Hope you're feeling better

Parapixine

Hello Grey,

I could certainly relate to your title (hating on myself). I am guessing many people here can....

As for something that helps.... Well for me - turning on Pandora comedy often can help. But just like anything - sometimes it does and sometimes it does not.

[GreyThinker]

Hey... appreciate you both commenting. Thanks. Hope things go well for you.

[healingme4me]

What's triggering, the 'bad thoughts'? And what types, of thoughts, are these?

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[Morgansangel]

I don't think I can offer any advice bar 'you're not alone'.

I hate myself. I hate everything about myself. I have no self esteem and don't see why I should have and don't understand why anyone talks to me who isn't being paid to (like drs etc)

[GreyThinker]

I don't think there is anything triggering the bad thoughts. I just recognise things about myself I hate. I know that the things I dislike about myself are true, and I hate that I am the person I am. Simple. I can't really tell myself that what I am hearing is wrong, because I know my voices are right.

I haven't tried comedy or music, but I usually turn to wine. Not a good choice, but it does dull what I feel.

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by GreyThinker

Is there anything I can do to stop the bad thoughts?

In my experience the most ineffective thing I can do to stop unwanted thoughts is to try to stop the unwanted thoughts. Yes, I realize that's counterintuitive. The more I try not to think about something, the more I think about it.

You may be able to distract yourself, or you might examine the unwanted thoughts carefully and work from them toward other channels.

The "Mindfulness" route works for an unknown (?) percentage of those who invest effort in it.