[awebb198488]

My best friend is out of town right now visiting friends from college. She visits them maybe once every couple months or so. I don't know why but everytime she does I get this sad/lonely feeling. I try so hard to fight it but it always comes back. I always seem to have to fight these feelings that I'm not good enough, that I'm easily replaced, and that she will leave me. I feel crazy for feeling this way because she is a loving, loyal friend. It all comes from my own insecurity I guess. I have this voice in the back of my head that says "she's having so much fun without you. her other friends are so much better than you". I hate feeling this way. I am ashamed of these feelings because deep down I know what I'm thinking isn't true and I want her to be happy and she deserves to spend time with her other friends too. Ugh I hate the way I think sometimes.

[Clara22]

Hi
Thanks a lot for sharing this. Perhaps deep down this is not only related to your relationship with your friend but mostly it is about profound stuff that is in you, like a pattern. Please, do not be ashamed, on the contrary it is perhaps an opportunity to think about how you build your relationships and represent them inside.

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by awebb198488

I hate the way I think sometimes.

Me too. It's terribly frustrating to be unable to get one's emotions in line with rationality. But it happens often.

The best practical advice I've heard is to just acknowledge the thoughts and the feelings, relax and let them go. Repeat as often as necessary.

Of course, even practical advice doesn't always work...

[Fuzzybear]

[Hope-Full]

Not much to add, just wanted to stop in and say that I totally can relate. When my BFFs (really, my only 2 friends, period) are away or are talking about other friends with me, I feel really sad and worthless, too.