[Unstable29]

Hey PC peeps! Unstable here so I have been thinking I'm often frustrated with people that just don't get depression or anxiety disorders. My father being one of them he just tells me to quit living in my past and that I don't need meds which is particularly funny coming from him because he is an alcoholic and uses that as his medication. So my question is I feel as though sometimes I should just tell him that if he can't support me then he has no reason to be in my life? Is that taking things too far? When do you know if a relationship has reached it's toxic level and it's time to let it go? Does that make sense to anyone or am I just rambling?

[Rohag]

Hello, Unstable29.

Originally Posted by Unstable29

When do you know if a relationship has reached it's toxic level and it's time to let it go? Does that make sense to anyone or am I just rambling?

You are definitely not "just rambling!" Many here have faced similar situations.

Looking at your above post and one other, I suspect your father is simply not capable of being supportive of you. How you manage your relationship is certainly up to you, and in managing the relationship it will be valuable to you to adjust your expectations in line with what you know.

[Mandysue]

I would learn to Love from a distance, and maybe you should check out al anon, its for family and friends of alcoholics. A lot of people don't understand mental illness, there is a stigma...just don't listen to unwanted opinions...its hard when family and friends don't get it.

[StarStrike]

I don't know if this is right... But it's what I do to avoid the hurtful comments my dad makes. I lie to him. Tell him I'm fine and don't tell him anything else, because he doesn't understand and doesn't seem to want to do any research. I just get. "What have you got to be depressed about?" From him and it hurts more than he'll ever know.

[Fuzzybear]

[Unstable29]

Originally Posted by StarStrike

I don't know if this is right... But it's what I do to avoid the hurtful comments my dad makes. I lie to him. Tell him I'm fine and don't tell him anything else, because he doesn't understand and doesn't seem to want to do any research. I just get. "What have you got to be depressed about?" From him and it hurts more than he'll ever know.

Hey StarStrike, I have done this as well in the past when my father asks how I'm doing and I say fine, I must say it in a high tone because he looks at me and says really?? He knows I'm lying to him he's called me out on it before. I am just so tired of explaining myself to people they just don't understand. I guess the only thing to do is learn to cope with and understand that they don't get why I am so depressed and be ok with the fact that they don't. I hope that makes sense lol in my head it does! Thanks for posting =)