[kittyfaye]

I am on meds but I've been so sad and depressed lately. I'm really broke and can hardly afford basic necissities because all my little bit of money I get goes into bills. My mom hates my boyfriend and treats me like ****. Here's a text I sent my roommate earlier today:

"Mom totally pisses me off. I went over there to get my mail and say hi earlier. I goofed around with [my younger brother and sister] for a bit then talked to mom even though I didn't want to. She just blabbed about herself of course and about not being ready to take her Emt [i took the course first to make it my career, mom just wants the knowledge.] test yet and so on and so forth. I took my knife that [my boyfriend] gave me out of my pocket cuz it was poking me and I mentioned that he found it in the yard or something and that it's a pretty good knife and all. She changed the subject pretty fast cuz I'm sure she didn't want to hear about [my boyfriend] Then I looked on the coffee table and saw a paper that was a copied business card from a policeman with his number handwritten on it. I asked her what that was for and she said she goes to Crossfit with him and that he would patrol for her when she goes to ****ing downtown Alex to take pictures and what not. She also said something about giving his info to [my other younger adult sister] for something. I mentioned something about you getting a ticket and trying to get it fixed for you. Then I tried to take a pic of the paper and she got mad and told me not to do that and his info didn't need to go around. So she gives his info to [sister] but not me??! What if I got in a bind and needed a cop? I guess I'm just stuck with 911 and [my bf]. I'm so ****ing done with her."

I decided that I'll move in with my boyfriend at the end of the apartment contract regardless of what my parents think. I'm done with my mom's crap. That's not the first time she's has done something like that.
The way my mom does me hurts me and saddens me.

[Overgraduated3728]

My depression started with my mom who was an alcoholic. So I know how much moms can hurt you. I think we have different types of moms but I can still connect with you. Sometimes you need a break from people. Maybe getting away from her for a little bit might help her realize that maybe she wasn't being the type of mom that you need. I was always aggressive and mean and hurtful to my mom and was never ever a person like that to anyone else. But the way I was acting towards her was how I felt on the inside. I'm not sure how old you are but maybe moving in with your boyfriend for a little but might help you clear your head and your mom might start to realize that she needs to be there for you in a way that you aren't receiving now.

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by Whendarknessfalls23

I am on meds but I've been so sad and depressed lately.

Meds can only do so much, particularly in the face of a toxic presence.

Sending my best wishes for you to find ways to build up your "psychological boundary strength" as a bulwark against the past and the present.

[Fuzzybear]

[kittyfaye]

Originally Posted by Overgraduated3728

I'm not sure how old you are but maybe moving in with your boyfriend for a little but might help you clear your head and your mom might start to realize that she needs to be there for you in a way that you aren't receiving now.

I'll be 24 in May. I'm an adult and she still treats me like a kid. Thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it.

[live2ski66]

I just turned 48 and she still treats me like I'm a child unable to make my own decisions. Actually there is no such thing as your own decision, there is her point of view or the highway.

[kittyfaye]

Originally Posted by live2ski66

I just turned 48 and she still treats me like I'm a child unable to make my own decisions. Actually there is no such thing as your own decision, there is her point of view or the highway.

My mother is the same way. She has quoted before, her way or the highway.