Never really have fitted in here, I guess like so many other places for me. Not enough support or friendship, nothing proper, all bits here and bits there, crappy really. I doubt I will change my mind.

I'm sorry you feel that way I feel that even though I might not always belong in PC, it's still a valuable place to vent my feelings and ask questions to people who have similar problems. If you really don't feel like PC is being a positive influence then that's fine too (I know I had to take a few trial weeks to make sure that all the sad posts weren't making me even more sad) but I encourage you to still use PC when you feel like you need it. You are always welcome here

Best of luck and feel free to PM me!

[Altered Moment]

I am curious why you think you don't fit in?

I have sometimes questioned whether it was good for me to be on these forums. Triggering or not. It makes me feel validated.

Did you ever think that maybe by being here you are helping someone else?

Do you think anyone really "fits in" here? Trust me, there's no consensus of conformity. You may need to make the extra effort. You may be expecting something that isn't to be found here but is within yourself.

[Mysterygirl202]

Originally Posted by George H.

Do you think anyone really "fits in" here? Trust me, there's no consensus of conformity. You may need to make the extra effort. You may be expecting something that isn't to be found here but is within yourself.

Ha! That question made me laugh. It's true though.

Sometimes it's hard to reach out to people when you have depression and other issues. Sometimes other people are busy and they would rather not talk about their problems as much. Other times they might not know how to help someone, so they don't. I find that a lot of people on here are helpful.

You just have to give it time and maybe try reaching out to other people first instead of waiting for them to come to you first. A few very nice women have reached out to me on here, and I'm grateful for that. People on here might not always have time for you, but that doesn't mean that they don't care about helping you.

Originally Posted by DylanP

Never really have fitted in here, I guess like so many other places for me. Not enough support or friendship, nothing proper, all bits here and bits there, crappy really. I doubt I will change my mind.

Well Dylan... I know what you mean. I have few friends here & half of the few I do have aren't posting anymore. If I get 3 comments on a post, I feel like it's a real victory! I've also felt that way about YouTube, where I have channels. If I get 10 comments on a video, I think I'm on my way to stardom!

What I've finally come to is, I do what I want... what makes me feel good. If anyone else wants to read my post or watch my video... fine. If not, who cares? I wrote it, or uploaded it, because it was what I wanted to do. It made me feel just a bit more fulfilled. And besides, if only 1 person reads my post, maybe that's the 1 person who really would have benefitted from it anyway & so the others really don't matter.

Do what you love...

[live2ski66]

Hi there,
First, please take into account I'm going through my own crisis so this may come across as too strong. It is not my intent to cause you any more discomfort.
My personal belief is if I want personal attention, someone to always respond to my questions and needs, someone to tell me what to do, how to fix it, and where to go, I should be paying my therapist or psychiatrist for that service. Like most people before me have said, this is a group of individuals who for the most part have a mental issue and are somewhere on the suffer spectrum. Think about how many posts you might read in a day. Do you provide a good supporting answer to every post you read? I doubt it. I try, and I know I fail. You cannot expect an answer to every post you put out there and you most definitely cannot expect double digit positive, useful comments to every one of your posts.
In my opinion this forum is a cross between a social group and group therapy. You get what you put into it. There are many times I will post something I personally think is very important and I get zero responses. As much as my initial instinct is to take it personally and believe that nobody cares, this is not the truth and I eventually accept reality.
The choice to stay a member is purely yours, just like it was your choice to join. If you want someone to "cure your problems", not even a psychiatrist is capable of doing this without your contribution. If you want personal attention all the time, you will need to go the route of a therapist, psychiatrist, or a clergy type person. If you want to enjoy the give and take of an active sharing group, perhaps gain new insight into your challenges, please stay, we welcome your participation and contributions.
Again, I apologize if I come across as too strong. The topic of your post is a trigger and pet peeve of mine. We all are looking for help and we are all equal participants. I have yet to receive a bill from Psych Central for its services. I'm very grateful to Doc John and all the volunteers who give selflessly of their time to give us this forum and provide us with good information and support.