[Kabuto]

Hi all,

I know of Elaine Aron and her research on being a Highly Sensitive Person (In my case, Highly Sensitive Male). I want to enjoy the "gifts" of HSP, I truly do, but for most of my life it has been a burden, especially now, at 23 years old.

I can't stand loud noises and overstimulation, and I respond heavily to the feelings of others. So these things make two aspects of my life very difficult- finding meaningful work, and meeting women (particularly, falling in love, though I'd take the sex too).

I really don't know what to do at this point. My college degree in Graphic Design is useless, and I just would want to be an artist. But needless to say, being a painter is practically impossible without supplementing it with something else. And I simply don't know what that thing would be.

Being shy and sensitive to noise, it's difficult as it is to meet girls. But to be unemployed and living at home on top of it? It's unbearable. The noises of my parents alone drive me crazy.

I've also spent the last two years practically in tears because of a heartbreak from my former lover. I guess to put it lightly, I've just been at a loss of how to find myself...where I want to be- what I want to be doing. But maybe future love would make things better- I'm open to it and I'm beginning to acknowledge other girls as greater prospects. But it's just so hard right now- even feel ok about what happened with this last one.

Anyway, I would really appreciate some advice from y'all, or even just some encouragement!

There are many many people who want to live a quiet life. But you most likely won't find those girls in bars or concerts.....

I think you may do better with an online dating service....you can get a good feel for someone talking with them online. What there likes and dislikes are....
Plus you have nothing to lose, really.

I don't really understand why your college degree is useless....All jobs are difficult to come by and you may have to do something you don't like until you are able to get a job in your desired field.
My son is an incredible artist, and right now he's working as a kennel attendant
Also living at home.....(it's just the way of things now..)
But, slowly, his work is getting out there.

[weedypete]

My husband has the High sensitive issues, he is a social worker and really loves his work in private practice. You could go for another career that will work with you. Also I agree, the online dating would be good for you.

Originally Posted by Kabuto

Hi all,

I know of Elaine Aron and her research on being a Highly Sensitive Person (In my case, Highly Sensitive Male). I want to enjoy the "gifts" of HSP, I truly do, but for most of my life it has been a burden, especially now, at 23 years old.

I can't stand loud noises and overstimulation, and I respond heavily to the feelings of others. So these things make two aspects of my life very difficult- finding meaningful work, and meeting women (particularly, falling in love, though I'd take the sex too).

I really don't know what to do at this point. My college degree in Graphic Design is useless, and I just would want to be an artist. But needless to say, being a painter is practically impossible without supplementing it with something else. And I simply don't know what that thing would be.

Being shy and sensitive to noise, it's difficult as it is to meet girls. But to be unemployed and living at home on top of it? It's unbearable. The noises of my parents alone drive me crazy.

I've also spent the last two years practically in tears because of a heartbreak from my former lover. I guess to put it lightly, I've just been at a loss of how to find myself...where I want to be- what I want to be doing. But maybe future love would make things better- I'm open to it and I'm beginning to acknowledge other girls as greater prospects. But it's just so hard right now- even feel ok about what happened with this last one.

Anyway, I would really appreciate some advice from y'all, or even just some encouragement!

[Kabuto]

Originally Posted by sophiesmom

There are many many people who want to live a quiet life. But you most likely won't find those girls in bars or concerts.....

I think you may do better with an online dating service....you can get a good feel for someone talking with them online. What there likes and dislikes are....
Plus you have nothing to lose, really.

I don't really understand why your college degree is useless....All jobs are difficult to come by and you may have to do something you don't like until you are able to get a job in your desired field.
My son is an incredible artist, and right now he's working as a kennel attendant
Also living at home.....(it's just the way of things now..)
But, slowly, his work is getting out there.

I know, I just think it's exceptionally hard to find something with what I studied. It's all good I guess- I'm probably either going to teach abroad or move to a new location regardless. It's really hard to leave my family and friends, as I love everyone, but I just don't like where I live and the opportunities are very limited. Plus, seasonal affective disorder has really messed with me.

As far as online dating, I've done it before, (it's actually how I met this last girl), and will continue to do so. It's hard when I'm not on my feet, one of the main things girls look for as I get older is self sustainability (or "maturity"). I don't think it's fair for a guy like me, but that's just how it is.

I'm just trying to justify and cope with my high sensitivity, as I try to justify a lot of things, I guess!

P.S.- best of luck to your son, he sounds like a great guy!

Originally Posted by weedypete

My husband has the High sensitive issues, he is a social worker and really loves his work in private practice. You could go for another career that will work with you. Also I agree, the online dating would be good for you.

I've considered social work, but for some reason I don't see it, and I can't go into something with a huge monetary investment without at least 65% certainty. (preferably 70-80% though) Believe me I thought it over!

I feel like I'm just a very rare type of person who has difficulty coping with a lot of societal standard fare. I love being unique and out of the norm, but I feel like society just doesn't respect those traits.


I'm at a strong mixture right now where I feel the need to be responsible and get myself on my feet at 23, but yet I haven't felt like I partied enough in my life. I only had sex with one person a select few times, and that was a long time ago- and I have only smoked weed (no longer, though).