Sadness for no reason.... :(

Hello all,

I'm new around here and unsure if this is the right place for this, but anyways... Here it is...

I have just been sad for no reason. Like there's no reason why I should be. I’m all good when I'm around others, but as soon as I'm alone its like I want to cry and again, for no logical reason... Somedays, everything is good, and I feel great and others, I feel like crying. I even consider(ing) breaking up with my girlfriend just on the fact that I'm unhappy in general.

Unless I’m with friends, I don’t really enjoy anything anymore. I find too there's some times that I just can't concentrate on work and other stuff... Like little motivation for that stuff sometimes... Which causes me to either not do it or stay up really late

My parents have kinda been noticing too, when I'm around them on bad days. They ask me what's wrong, I always tell them that I'm tired... They seem to buy it...

I always second guess myself on stuff too. I constantly question whether people like my best friend actually consider me a friend or are they just doing stuff with me to be nice. I opened up to the same best friend about all this stuff and he was really supportive (actually admitted to me that he "gets the same thing") and said he's here if I ever want to talk (guessing myself if he actually "means" it). The thing is that I don't want to be a burden to him by talking about this stuff. I don't want him to think I'm this emotionally damaged person....

Any comments would be welcome. Also, are there any coping strategies people use when they feel sad?

Welcome to PC.
It is hard to say not knowing your history. There doesn't have to be a logical reason or anything we are aware of for feeling sad and crying. It can be just something real coming up that we are just not aware of. Or it can be a symptom of depression. Some of the things you talk about are symptoms of depression. That doesn't mean you have depression.
Lack of motivation.
No interest in things.
Crying spells.
Lack of enjoyment in things you normally enjoy.
Feeling inadaqute
Feeling like a burden.

All symptoms of depression. That doesn't mean you have it though. It could be a number of things.

Try not to think of yourself as a burden. Your friend seems very understanding and has offered. For all you know it may help him very much. Often when we tell what is really going on it helps others in ways we can't even imagine. Sharing your story here is not a burden, it helps me and others. We are in this thing together.

Coping strategies. My first thought is let yourself be sad. If you are sad you are sad, there is no shame in that. My second thought is why are you sad and like you said you don't know. There are lots of coping strategies. One that comes to mind is cognitive behaviour therapy. You have to practice a lot of self awareness and it takes practice. But try to be aware of what you are thinking about before you get sad. If you can pinpoint thoughts that may cause it you can challenge them. If they are bubbling up from the sub conscience and you are not aware of them then it is more challenging. You could start practicing meditation which really helps you to become more self aware.

Do alot of reading in these forums and see what you relate to.

How long have you been feeling this way? That is a big thing to think about when thinking yr depressed. It sounds to me that you are suffering from this debilitating disorder. I agree with the other post. Be sad if yr sad. Try and set small daily goals for yourself. If you find it hard to do anything do one thing at time. It's positive that you enjoy being around yr friends. I can't stand to be around anyone when I'm depressed. It's also good that yr family is concerned for you. Use them as a support. I don't have family that cares about my wellbeing so yr lucky. Be easy on yr self. Rest when you feel like resting. Take it easy.

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Thanks. I'm going to look into cognitive behaviour therapy. It sounds like something that would help. Re my friend: I feel like I want to talk to him about this stuff... At the same time, it sounds irrational (I know I already mentioned this) but I don't want him think less of me. Again, I question whether he is actually my friend (although I don't see a logical reason why he wouldn't, but I still second guess myself). I've considered asking him, but that would seem pretty silly...

It's been on and off for a while, it recently got bad though

Those are the kinds of thoughts you challenge in CBT. Like you said they are irrational. They have no basis in reality. You try to be aware of when you are having those thoughts and how they make you feel and act and you challenge them with your rational mind. You do this over and over.

Oh this thought just came up that I am a burden and it makes me feel sad and I avoid telling others what is going on with me. Does this thought have any basis in reality. What evidence do I have that it is not true. My friend accepted me and didn't judge me and actually said he related. Maybe it helps him. I am not a burden. My parents would want to know if I am struggling because they love me and would want to help that is not being a burden. I don't mind listening to my other friends problems and I am willing to help them. Why do I not deserve the same. You can change your irrational thoughts.