[GoldBunni]

Hi all, I have a query.

I find a very large factor in my emotional state is location however I'm not sure why and many times it doesn't make much sense.

For example, I recently returned from visiting some friends in the city I went to Uni in. I had a wonderful time and was in really high spirits; spending time with people who love and care about me and enjoying the bustling environment. However I return home where it is a lot quieter but peaceful and I feel...really down.

Now the obvious answer seems to be that my friends are situated in the first city and that's why my mood lifted but I feel that even without them there I would have felt better. After having a think I feel that certain locations to me denote a feeling of dependence (and entrapment) and others independence (freedom).

I was really happy while at Uni and that city makes me feel like I can do anything, whenever I am ready, in my own time; I can live my life for me. Where as at home, with my mum to answer too (but even without her necessarily) I feel a lot of pressure and as though I am not in control of my life and it's course. I think some areas make me feel nostalgic also, but in a negative way; likely harking back to a time when I was a child and therefore dependent.

I definitely feel I'll be happier when I move out but I don't have the money currently, I also feel I want to move away from the area/county I was raised but I don't know where to go. I would go back to my uni's city but sadly the job market there is really poor (my friends for example have been trying to find consistent, secure and relevant employment there for 2 years; nothing, they're now all planning to move back to their home towns).

I approach my therapist about this during my therapy in late 2013 but found it very difficult to put into words. Does anyone else just get a vibe or atmos from a place or geographical location that just makes you feel unhappy or vice versa?

[regretful]

I was just talking with a friend of mine last night about this very fact...he and I share a hometown, but he has since moved away from here...far away (from the Northeast US to Southeast Asia). He said the same thing happened as did for you in that when he returned to his hometown, he began to get very down. I've been back in my hometown for about 15 years, and I think that since I've been here my depression has gone from bad to worse.... So the short answer to your question is - yup, location matters in my experience (and in the experience of my dear friend)...

[pisces22]

I still live with my parents and I occasionally get out of town but being at home, makes me feel very depressed and anxious. Just going to the store or the park or something makes me feel a lot better.

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[lizzyjb]

I moved with my husband 7 years ago to a small village, far away my friends, my family.... In the middle of nowhere. Since I am here I started with anxiety and depression. So yes. The location affects.

Does location effect my depression???
YES - as long as I am located on this planet - I will be depressed.

[greentires4me]

I was most happy when I lived in Jasper, alberta but since living or coming back to the place i grew up I have more attempts on my life and SI. I feel like my life is going no where and I am on PWD which makes me feel worse about my life but I am trying to feel better instead of down and out

[waterknob1234]

It would be hard to say for me since I have lived in the same place all my life, but I know when I go to the Great Smoky Mountains of North Carolina and Tennessee I am always happy. It is beautiful there and the people who are native to that area are sweet and friendly. I always hate to leave and go back home.

It's seems to be for me that as long as I'm not at home with my normal routine then I feel better. I can almost trick myself into thinking I'm ok again...until I go back home that is.