[regretful]

Has anyone else experienced this? I find myself experiencing a deepening level of depression that increases in intensity with my anger. Anger at myself, my life, my situation ~ which is really nothing to complain about. I have a home, family, and business. I'm not starving, my marriage is generally a good one and has been for 20 years, my son is healthy...but I am simply angry all the time. Is it just because it is easier to be angry than it is to be sad? Any thoughts and input is greatly appreciated...

[Travelinglady]

I tend to turn my anger inward and get depressed for that reason. I have even heard depression defined as "anger turned inward."

Can you wrack your brain some more to figure out what you might be angry about?

Perhaps you could talk to a therapist about it. Maybe it even has to do with issues from the past that are cropping up on some level.

[kaliope]

anger is what is referred to as a secondary emotion. we have primary emotions, such as lonliness, depression, sadness, etc.....and we don't know how to deal with those feelings...so we respond in anger instead. if we learn how to address the primary emotions then we will not be angry...if we are feeling lonely and get grumpy and angry, we can call a friend and go to the movies and we wont feel grumpy and angry any more because we don't feel lonely anymore. address the primary emotions and there is no need to feel angry........take care

[Altered Moment]

I have always turned my anger inward as well. Maybe you are angry at what depression has robbed from you. Even though you are secure materially and family wise it doesn't mean depression doesn't rob things from you internally. Also didn't you say you were unhappy working at the business.

[Fuzzybear]

[regretful]

Originally Posted by zinco14532323

I have always turned my anger inward as well. Maybe you are angry at what depression has robbed from you. Even though you are secure materially and family wise it doesn't mean depression doesn't rob things from you internally. Also didn't you say you were unhappy working at the business.

Thanks for the insightful replies...

And yes, I am intensely unhappy about working in this business. Self-employment is a home-run for some, but definitely not for me.

I am angry with what depression has robbed from me ~ smiling, enjoyable mornings/evenings, laughter.

I've taken some good strides in my "recovery" ~ for instance, I'm not drinking much anymore (two beers is a lot for me in the course of a night, whereas before, I would drink until it was gone)...I'm sleeping okay, I don't isolate or breakdown as often as I did in January...

But depression has been sopping up my strength...and I'm angry about that too. The days are too long...too tired from this anger...too much...

regretful, I have an increasingly great amount of anger regarding my depression too. Just extremely ticked off that it persists, how it affects my behavior, and that the majority of the population is non-depressed while I have to fight this gargantuous demon. It's turned into intense irritability and even road rage. I curse at myself too, when I'm lying in bed doing nothing.

Just know you're not alone with the anger.

[Altered Moment]

It ain't freaking fair but we got it.

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[regretful]

I hear you loudly and clearly, Zinco...that's what continues to fuel the anger; here, there, and everywhere...

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

Yup. I think I mentioned something like that very recently, actually.

[regretful]

Originally Posted by Zwangsstörung

Yup. I think I mentioned something like that very recently, actually.

Depressed minds think alike? I knew that I heard it from somewhere, and I've been feeling it all along...but this anger is really getting to me lately. Mine is fueled, as Zinco so clearly identified, by my disdain for my work in a family owned business. I'm so damned upset by it...and feeling trapped in it makes matters that much worse...I could ramble on about this incessantly, and I guess it won't change anything one iota, so I suppose I'll stop writing and do the one thing I feel competent at lately...ruminating on the reasons why I'm depressed in order to maintain this intense level of exhausting anger...

[healingme4me]

I was once told anger is a gift. I, struggle to find people I don't see as having depression of some degree, or have had it.

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[waterknob1234]

I also struggle with anger. My anger is mostly turned inward towards myself. I become angry with the stressful situations at work. I get angry at the depression and what it robs from me. Mostly I get angry at myself for being this way. Other people with worse troubles can seem so happy. Being self-employed can be very hard and stressful in many ways. My husband is self-employed and sometimes doesn't know when he is going to be paid for work he does. Best of wishes to you.

[Bigmike727]

Personally, I find that anger and depression go hand in hand. For me, it is anger at my life and my inability to change it that has me depressed. I can't remember where I heard this, but I remember hearing someone compare depression to builtup anger held within. Anyways, I wish you the best.

Originally Posted by regretful

Has anyone else experienced this? I find myself experiencing a deepening level of depression that increases in intensity with my anger. Anger at myself, my life, my situation ~ which is really nothing to complain about. I have a home, family, and business. I'm not starving, my marriage is generally a good one and has been for 20 years, my son is healthy...but I am simply angry all the time. Is it just because it is easier to be angry than it is to be sad? Any thoughts and input is greatly appreciated...

I read once that for a man who has depression, it often manifests itself as anger and aggression. I experience the same things to. My anger/aggression is out of frustration when things don't work the way I want it to. It always seems like everything goes wrong all the time .

[regretful]

Originally Posted by StbGuy

I read once that for a man who has depression, it often manifests itself as anger and aggression. I experience the same things to. My anger/aggression is out of frustration when things don't work the way I want it to. It always seems like everything goes wrong all the time .

I know that things don't always work out how you want them to; lately it is feeling like, because of one decision (quitting a job) that everything is going wrong. Depression is the worst possible feeling and leads to the worse possible thoughts...

Thanks, everyone, for your insightful comments...

Originally Posted by regretful

I know that things don't always work out how you want them to; lately it is feeling like, because of one decision (quitting a job) that everything is going wrong. Depression is the worst possible feeling and leads to the worse possible thoughts...

Thanks, everyone, for your insightful comments...

I know what you mean. I have many regrets, because of some decisions I made years ago, for example when I chose my study field at university 7 years ago. Today it feels like I made the wrong decision back then as I am now very unhappy where I'm at, typically now at the culmination of all the studying. But, it's so hard to change now, and to be quite honest, I've lost total sight of any possible alternatives, as I now don't feel passion and/or love for anything anymore .

[regretful]

Originally Posted by StbGuy

I know what you mean. I have many regrets, because of some decisions I made years ago, for example when I chose my study field at university 7 years ago. Today it feels like I made the wrong decision back then as I am now very unhappy where I'm at, typically now at the culmination of all the studying. But, it's so hard to change now, and to be quite honest, I've lost total sight of any possible alternatives, as I now don't feel passion and/or love for anything anymore .

A true kindred spirit...though I really enjoyed my chosen field, I left it to join my wife in a business we started. It was interesting for about five minutes (well, maybe a year)...but after the novelty wore off, the anger at leaving my career began...now, stuck in a business that I loathe, all of the passion is gone, and into that void entered depression...on and off, since 2009...more on than off...

Originally Posted by regretful

A true kindred spirit...though I really enjoyed my chosen field, I left it to join my wife in a business we started. It was interesting for about five minutes (well, maybe a year)...but after the novelty wore off, the anger at leaving my career began...now, stuck in a business that I loathe, all of the passion is gone, and into that void entered depression...on and off, since 2009...more on than off...

Yeah, I get what you're saying completely. I also chose something to make others happy. People kept advising me, telling me I should do this and that because it's my future and blah blah blah... I ended up choosing a field because of it's career-generating potential. But, I ask you, who is going to employ a sad, unhappy and depressed person in their company anyway? What good did it do me, I won't get a job in this field now anyway.

I know I'm still young, and was only 17 when I made that decision, and I know that one's parents and elders should always know best, but truly I tell you I regret ever listening to them. I had my own brain to follow and I regret not just saying NO, and doing what I wanted to.

[Melmo]

I am the same way. I'm tired all the friggen time, which makes me irritable. I get angry because I can't even work or function at the moment and I feel like things will never get better. I feel like I'm always irritated and angry. About 3 years ago I had rage so bad...ill just say I hope that never happens again. I would scream, throw chairs across the kitchen, slam doors etc. I'm ashamed of how I acted. I started meds soon after that.