[Marshellette]

Last night I gave some random guy my number at the food place where I work. He seemed so baffled, he turned ten shades of pink and then just said, "Yeah, uh, sure whatever," and pocketed the number. He seems a sort of stoner dude. Long blond hair in a pony, a little sleepy. He didn't call last night. Think one day later that he probably won't?

[atomicc]

Well I don't think I can give you a good answer, it depends on the person. He could call you tomorrow, a week from now or not at all.
Did he ask for it or you just handed it to him? Did you guys have a conversation?
Lots of factors, but I wish you good luck!

Originally Posted by Marshellette

Last night I gave some random guy my number at the food place where I work. He seemed so baffled, he turned ten shades of pink and then just said, "Yeah, uh, sure whatever," and pocketed the number. He seems a sort of stoner dude. Long blond hair in a pony, a little sleepy. He didn't call last night. Think one day later that he probably won't?

I can relate to this sort of worrying about dating and relationships. One thing I know won't change a thing is ruminating on the possibilities. He may or may not. I don't mean to be harsh.

Best thing to do in my opinion: Figure out what you might want in a partner or date. Then keep talking with men, asking for numbers etc.

Part of dating is a pure numbers game. I know that doesn't sound very romantic. It's also something you need to practice at. You will make mistakes. And some people won't like you for no reason at all. And that's ok.

All the while, and this is easier said than done, try to remind yourself of the things that make YOU a good person and potential partner. That is, find reasons that someone else might be missing out if they reject you. Try not to think in terms of "someone rejected because I am flawed in ways A, B, and C."

Signed: 30-something single-male and recovering ultimate relationship worrywart (anxious attachment style, low self-esteem, etc.).

Keep going. You'll find someone.

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

I doubt it, to be honest... After his reaction, I'd say he's not worth it. "Uh sure whatever?" I mean, c'mon... how's that respectful, polite, tactful, ... or even just nice! Ergh. I [strongly dislike] guys like that. Sorry if this hits a nerve with anyone; I'm certain there are exceptions.

If some random woman gave me her number, I'd be very flattered and thank her, whether I'm interested or not.

I believe the outlook you need is: "I don't care whether he calls or not." obviously you do, but don't let you know that!

[Marshellette]

He did call for starts. And I love men, I like Cynosure's answer to keep meeting them and keep handing out my number. You're basically a salesperson for yourself so don't be shy.

That's good that he called you. I just have some curious questions to ask. Had you known this guy? Do you work as a cashier at a grocery store?

[A.Lone]

On Facebook I found a person who I see at work once a week or so. She did respond to my request of being "friends" so I thought there might be a chance to get to know her better (she doesn't have much info in her bio). Having seen her for a couple of years now I did send her my regular e-mail address and also gave it to her in person. No word from her on Facebook or through e-mail. But I haven't brought up her non-responsiveness in person either - don't want to make her feel uncomfortable. The way I look at is I tried. Maybe someday she'll shock me and I'll hear from her other than at work.