[Crook32]

Sometimes I feel like I am not really depressed and really just lazy. At least that is how it feels some times.

[Silent Void]

I hear you. I have tremendous guilt about not working. I have to remind myself it's not laziness but an inability to deal with stress and trouble making decisions that is keeping me out of the work pool.

[vonmoxie]

I struggle with this too, and what further complicates it for me is the way that my parents consistently labelled me "lazy" from a very young age, at which point I was simply frozen with terror at the unhealthy environment I was trapped in growing up. I'm sure that a good portion of the mental chatter I hear now that says I am lazy is the result of their early implanting and repetition of that idea; I just don't know how much, and it makes it more difficult to discern my own feelings about the matter, among the residue of their negative generalizations.

I will say though, I'm patently opposed to the word "lazy"! I think it is mythological at best as a supposed feature of any human spirit, and not a natural state but a reaction to difficult situations. Since it is generally used to describe a person, and not an act, it becomes blaming and shaming, but in my opinion there is always a basis for feelings of inaction that I think is far kinder and healthier (and more reasonable) to focus on, as these seem to me to be borne of perfectly forgivable reactions to our heartbreaks and struggles and is simply what makes us human.

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vonmoxie

“To invent your own life’s meaning is not
easy, but it’s still allowed, and I think you’ll
be happier for the trouble.”

— Bill Watterson

[Crook32]

My T wants me to not take on so much responsibility and to let others help. But if I am not doing the things I used to I feel lazy.

[NowhereUSA]

it's taken me a long, long, long time to accept that my depression makes things difficult for me. and i still struggle with it. so i try to do little things and make smaller goals.

[Altered Moment]

I think it comes from the shame we carry about having depression and how it causes us not to be able to do things. I should be doing this and I should be doing that and I am a lazy piece of ***** because I cannot. It lies to us.

[prinssa]

I can't tell it apart either. I sleep a lot because I hate being up early. I sleep more than 8 hours daily. I have no motivation to get organized with paperwork. Lack of energy because of too much sleep?

[bubbles00]

i have the same problem here. just laying around and sleeping all day (but i still feel tired). cant distinguish which one it is either :/

[Mustkeepjob32]

My family, while they support me in my depression and anxiety, sometimes because they get fed up, they label me as "lazy." If they only knew the pain of not being able to do all things like work that a "normal" person.