[butterfly76]

I feel like I am being ignored here on the forum and in my home life. What do I have to do to have someone take a interest in me? Or should I just live my life and not care?

Originally Posted by butterfly76

I feel like I am being ignored here on the forum and in my home life. What do I have to do to have someone take a interest in me? Or should I just live my life and not care?

I understand what you're saying.

[TheDeepGreenSea]

What do you mean have someone take an interest in you? It usually takes a while to build a friendship with people on internet communities.

Remember that all of us are fighting our own battles inside and while we try to be compassionate and helpful, sometimes those battles steal our focus. This goes for everyone, even people without anxiety and depression.

Perhaps you don't have the right people around for you to have a mutually beneficial give and take type friendship or relationship. It takes time and luck to find those... also, they don't always last. However, maybe it's worth thinking about how good they are when you have them so don't give up on pursuing them.

I don't think there's anything you need to do for those to come along except remain open to them and try to be friendly? If you find you need more social interaction, I'd say seek it out. However, I don't think trying to morph existing relationships where you're being ignored or mistreated into something else is really a good recipe for success.

One of the few things I've done right is not be afraid to move on from people who are toxic to how you feel too, if you're here I'm sure you already put enough negative pressure on yourself and don't need it from other people who only feed you negativity.

[Mustkeepjob32]

To just live your life and not care is the best thing to do but it's also the hardest thing for us with depression to do. If we could, we'd be so much happier.

[Frankbtl]

Hi butterfly, I'm sorry you feel ignored on here (come to your home life shortly if that's OK) it's just that sometimes people only have so much to give, are struggling or don't feel they are are the best people to give advise in certain situations but that doesn't need to say that they don't care/that what you're going through doesn't matter. So, welcome to PC!!
Checked out your last thread and I've got to say that it's great that you're being so honest and open about things gone on/going on for you, that can be really important at times in getting help/support/understanding just try to keep that up, hey?? And give us a bit more time, even if that means starting a different thread sometimes.
It might be that you want to try different forums as well, I know that some of the issues in your last thread might fit well into the forum for Relationships and Communication for example.
Anyway, in your home life...........could it be that people just aren't "getting" where you're coming from and if you could help them see how you're feeling..............maybe some don't know how to "be there for you" and if you could let them know a bit more about what you'd like from them.............maybe it's some of the people in your life and for one reason or another they just aren't capable right now (or at all) of showing interest and if you were to start looking further afield/open up your life to other/new people being part of it, maybe starting by interacting more with "acquaintances"/people in passing/doing different things or activities......................
Or maybe focus more on yourself right now, depression can be really tough and if more of your attention is going more towards other people than towards yourself that can be pretty hard. Are there maybe things you could do for you that might help just a tiny bit where you might have been focusing on others. Just some thoughts.............
And again, welcome to PC!!!
If you want to talk some more...............

Alison
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[Clara22]

I apologize, I did not know what to say

[flours]

I am sorry that I didn't answer anymore in your last thread. I was very involved with my own issues. also I don't know what advice I can give you because I know nothing about relationships. but please don't think nobody cares.

[healingme4me]

I've learned, forums take time. I'm personally, not daily, in the depression forum. Not even daily, in anxiety. It's a large community, spaced out, also. Some days, in certain areas, more than others.

I'll take a peek in your other posts, to see if I've much to add. Sometimes, other replies resonate, and I don't find it useful to 'ditto'..,

Takes time, to build your own inner PC circles, but it happens. Like as happens, when being introduced to a new family or workplace. Takes time.

[cryingontheinside]

Hi butterfly. I dont think anyone on here is intentally ignoring you. There are alot of people and a lot of posts. It helps if you join in and reply to other peoples post. I also started a thread on here asking if anyone wanted a friend to send private messege and no one did. I didnt take it personally tho. We will both makd friends on here eventually. I guess it just takes time and we need to participate alot more