Just Venting I Suppose

Stuck in a miserable place. Whenever I let those close to me know that I'm depressed, they talk to me about maybe it is due to be graduating and not having something to challenge me now or something along those lines. Little do they know that I've been suffering from depression for 10 years now, so while the love behind their advice is appreciated it falls upon deaf ears because I know it won't help because that obviously isn't the problem. When I tell people I'm lonely they tell me I'm not alone because I have friends and family who love me. I'm thankful to have those people in my life, but loneliness and being alone are different things. Being alone is an objective thing of whether you have people to talk to or not. Loneliness is a subjective feeling and my loneliness in particular only occurs when I'm not in a romantic relationship.

Don't know what the purpose of this post was, just to vent I suppose.

Hello, AbsurdBlackBear. I know what you are saying.

LONELINESS---Loneliness of Spirit: Deeper than the Reach of Love by James Leonard Park.

I wish you well.

You're absolutely correct. They love but they don't know depression and the kind of loneliness you describe. There's no deep, personal insight to inform the advice their love engenders.

Please keep on venting.

((((((((( Bear )))))))))

It helps to vent and get stuff out there. Remember to take things one day at a time, not all at once.

Thanks for the link. I don't really think it is existential loneliness though, since what gives me despair isn't a loneliness of the human condition, but a loneliness of not feeling complete/truly myself when I'm single.

((((((Hugs))))))

I think we've all been there, some people just don't have the wherewithal to understand.

Yeah, Bear. I definitely know how you feel. I have so many loved ones who care about me, but loneliness is within. We could be in a crowd, Bear, and yet be lonelier than we've ever been before. Hang in there