[plinky678]

Has anybody ever felt overwhelming jealousy about the same set, and had extremely low self esteem about themselves?
I'm obsessed by my partners eyes on attractive people it's ruining my life

[waterknob1234]

I have suffered low self-esteem much of my life. It sounds as if it is causing you much hurt when your partner looks at another. I don't know if it is worth having a talk with your partner about this issue, or perhaps counseling if need be to resolve the problems and issues. Hugs to you and best wishes.

[ShiningOne]

Hey plinky,
Jealousy and low self esteem - they're no strangers to me.

Just some friendly outside perspective:

I think it's totally rude if your partner stares at other people for a long time
However, a quick glance once in a while when you see someone attractive may just be a natural reaction; it doesn't mean your partner loves you any less.

I think it's worth having a nice calm talk with your partner about. They probably aren't even aware of how you're feeling. Communication is important in any sort of relationship

Either way, I hope you find the strength to overcome these negative emotions.

[plinky678]

Thank you to you both. My partner knows exactly how I feel and I know I put him on edge the whole time we are together in public if an attractive woman walks past. I know that I am attractive but it's almost as if I'm trying to make sure I'm the most attractive so that he never wants to stray... my past history of men doesn't help as my father and step father have both been cheats. I guess I can't accept that not everyone does it. I feel like I can never trust.
The situation is so bad that we have been at party's and I literally feel like I have to watch my partner intensely as if there is an attractive women I would actually think if he went missing he was off with her! I'm literally going insane. I don't feel as bad with women that I know and trust like my friends I wouldn't care if my partner was around them.

Would councilling be able to stop this awful thing? X

[Fuzzybear]