[hard2bstrong]

This is probably more a vent than anything but I am finding it so hard to get to work and function. I had the last couple of days off and went back today an hour late so I could get my 12 hours sleep that I need.

I was ok while keeping busy but as soon as I stopped for lunch I felt like crying and it took all my strength not to.

My doctor gave me more time off but I thought it would be better to go back than explain where I have been but I got a critical and unwarranted email from my boss and now I don't want to work there. I can't manage hard stuff like that when I feel like this.

I don't know what to do. I've read a bit about telling work what's going on, on these Forums but still not sure. Do I take more time off? Do I tell work? Do I find another job as I think they have been pretty average with criticism and then not organising one on one time to hear my thoughts about how things are from my point of view? My least rational thought is quit tomorrow. God it's so hard to deal with depression AND hard situations that impact your life. at the same time.

[iditp20]

I have been signed off work by my doctor for a total of 7 weeks now. This makes me feel worse but at the same time your health is more important.

Explain to work why you have been off, and that your doctor has given you more time off and you feel you need to take it...most work places are understanding about this

Personally my expierence isn't so great as my boss ignored me when the doctor signed me off for another month, I am now on the second week from that and I am expecting a dismissal letter through the post as I am unfit for the position. But again, mental health is more important

[waterknob1234]

I am hoping you had a written excuse from your doctor for documentation. Bosses can be ruthless. I completely understand because I work in a daily harassment situation. Keep all your documentation. I don't know how your job is, you can explain that you have been ill, show a doctor's excuse. That should be enough to cover you. I deal with this garbage a lot at my job and I am seeking another job. Best of wishes to you.

[hard2bstrong]

Thank you both for the advice.

Yes I do have a doctor's certificate to excuse my time off.

My last job I took a week off as I was very stressed and emotional and because I was still in the 6 month probation period, there was no job to go back too.

I feel like I really need to keep my cool and not let work know what's going on as most times it seems like it's worse. Although trying not to play the victim, all poor little old me wants is some compassion and caring that I'm not well and don't need critical emails about all the things me and the team are doing wrong. How about a how are you feeling? Is there anything I can do to help as you must have a lot to catch up on.

Wow PC is amazing. I feel so much more clarity being able to write things down and share. Better than dreaming and thinking the worst!

[Altered Moment]

I lost my last two jobs due to missed time due to depression. My doc did give me some paid state disability time but was very stingy with it compared to my mental state. I can't really blame the company as they were under tremendous pressure to meet deadlines. I had doctors notes but didn't pursue anything.

There is the family medical leave act.

http://www.dol.gov/whd/fmla/

I believe you have to be at the job for a year. They cannot fire you and have to keep your insurance in place if you have it. Not sure of what it takes to qualify but worth reading up on.

a serious health condition that makes the employee unable to perform the essential functions of his or her job;

Does your state have a disability insurance program that you pay into similar to unemployment. I know CA does. If you were on that I doubt they would fire you.

[hard2bstrong]

My manager has unleashed with multiple criticisms on me and if it was the previous 3 weeks I would have broken down at work and would have taken time off. Fortunately my mood picked up this week only to be clobbered by my boss. It's a small company, I report to the director and have 2 people under me. She has on at least 5 occasions told me to do something, then told me off when it wasn't the right thing to do. I try to respond but she told me I'm defensive. She also told me I was crying wolf for being so busy and in the conversation told me I am getting another person in my team. She brought up all these trivial personality clashes that others had mentioned and I said I have loads of those but I just shrug it off and get on with the job. I feel like even if I was in the best mental state that I can be that I wouldn't be able to deal with it but cloud it with what I've been going through the last few weeks it seems impossible. I've started looking for other jobs but it's tough out there and I don't even know if I have the strength to put up with this negative unfair crap. This is the 3rd time I have had issues with jobs. I'm trying not to think it's me.....first job was validated by work safe as bullying led to my breakdown, 2nd time a number of staff were being treated poorly and were bullied but not me, I had trouble with my boss telling me to be harsh on the staff and then told me off for being about 20% of how harsh he was.....another breakdown and this job. Anyways, I'm going to see a psychologist and psychiatrist tomorrow so that should help along this rant. I'm thinking of telling my boss about my medical condition and that all these criticisms have been hard to take when they seem solely directed at me. Or do I just say yep to all her goes at me even though it's unfair???? What to do.