[Idiot17]

So the whole not talking to me, I'm invisible thing started because my ****ing "parents" felt like I back stabbed them. (I went to speak to a mental health professional without telling them since they don't approve of such trash they found out and we're seriously mad)

So they stopped talking to me, 4 plus weeks ago. Today my mother sits me down and tells me I'm not communicating. I need to tell her what I do, where I'm going...This isn't a boarding house, you have to do your share..... There's a lack of communication between you and us, she tells me. **** them. Seriously. I tried telling her you stopped the talking but she right away turned it around and blamed it on me.

I want to leave this place.

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((( Idiot17 )))))))))
I'm sorry, this sounds infuriating (and depressing). Is there any way you could leave, even for a while? If not, maybe try to look at the situation as if from a distance for long enough to try to break through the wall of their incomprehension and lack of empathy towards you.., and find a different way to communicate. Even a small change in communication style from you may precipitate a positive change in communication style from them. We can hope... I hope this helps a bit. I'm not an expert in communication/relationship issues, particularly with parents. I'm sorry you feel trapped - it's a horrible feeling (I sense this trapped feeling anyway). I know you're very smart and will find a way out... I guess you have to be your parents "teacher" in how to communicate more effectively

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by Idiot17

I tried telling her you stopped the talking but she right away turned it around and blamed it on me.

Wow. This reminds me of . . . a dysfunctional family order.

((((((( I17 )))))))

[Abe Froman]

Reminds me of me at one point. So I really feel for you. There's nothing you can really do about your parents. That's on them. So just do the best you can to take care of you(seek your treatment) and hopefully sooner than later you can find a way to leave there.

[Clara22]

I am sorry you are going through this. I am much older than you so I do not know if my experience is of any help as I belong to a different generation but to me financial self-sufficiency made a great difference in the relationship with my parents. It made them change and more importantly, it made me change as well, the way I manage myself and the sense of freedom.

I'm going through the same thing and with time have come to learn that all that has been said is very true. Appreciate everyone's posts; Idiot17

[waterknob1234]

I'm sorry you are having to deal with all this mess with your parents. I wish they would be more supportive. Meanwhile, do what you can to get help for yourself, from a doctor or therapist. I'm hoping and praying you can find a better living situation soon.

[Idiot17]

Today. My "dad" or rather "stepdad" spoke to me. He broke the silence for exactly 47 seconds. What he had to say was enlightening, considerate and kind. Very kind.

He walked over to me and told me he'll forgive me for what I did because he has a conscious. He won't forget it or anything but he feels bad for me that he won't be forgiving me so out of the goodness of his heart he'll forgive me. But he'll never forget.

Seriously??????
I'm not sure anymore what I did to get him upset. I'm confused here.

[Alter]

Well you can't do much about your own parents.

About what he told you, maybe he is upset because you went to therapy without telling him and your mother, even if they don't approve they might wanted that you would share your decision of going with them, it's better to have your son doing something you don't agree than doing the same behind your back.