Worried about a clasmate

She always seems depressed. I noticed that she has been crying because of her makeup. I do not know her well. What should I do?

Umm...Anyone?

How social and stable are you at present? Would you feel comfortable asking her if she would like to talk? All you have to do is listen; providing answers is not essential.

I am rally not a social person, I am very hsy. Stable....I'm still depressed, & thinking of suicide

Is there anyone at your school (nurse, counselor, instructor, administrator) or in your community you trust enough to approach with your concerns for this classmate as well as for your own needs?

I agree that you yourself may not be the best person to supply support to this classmate at this time. There's no shame in recognizing your own difficulties require you to focus on yourself first.

I find that if I share with them about myself and my depression the other person is much more likely to trust me and open up about themselves.

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Hi The Fox & the Hound, real kudos to you for caring so much about how this girl is feeling
Do you know any of her friends? If so you might want to mention to one of them what you've noticed to give them the opportunity to offer her some support.
If not, otherwise..........you might want to mention you've noticed "something seems to be getting her down" and if she wants to talk about it..............
But if it starts getting "too deep" for you, you do need to point her in the direction of support e.g. school counsellor and even talk to them on her behalf. At least then maybe you'll have done more for her than some of them around her, maybe more than all of them!!!
And back to YOU The Fox & the Hound, are YOU getting any help now?? You know we'd all be wanting you to be getting the help/support you need.

Alison

No. I want others to be happy. I don't matter.

I'm worried due to the suicide that recently happened. I don't want her to go down that road. EVER.

You do matter, you can both be happy and want others to be happy. I hope both you and her can both get some help

Hi The Fox & the Hound, you really do matter!! AND you matter to us!!!
You know it's the depression that's telling you otherwise, so please get some help with it. You really do deserve that, you deserve so much more.
And real respect on being such a caring person too btw!!!

Alison

Befriending others is truly about letting them know they matter, as well as, believing that you also matter to them, in return. They'll reciprocate in mutual supportive behaviors and gestures.

When feeling yourself as deeply depressed as you've expressed, sometimes a tinge of projected emotions comes to the surface.

Grieving the suicide of someone in your community, is a unique stressor. I remember a young man, from my first high school had. Though, a couple years older, it was a collective sadness. My own attempt was a couple of months prior, truly shifted my own perspective, just prior to my transer,when i moved to my moms.

I cried and cried, when the same, happened to a young man, at the high school I was working at, a couple of years ago. Then, another young man, would sometimes come to my line, with a recovery smile about him. My scar is an old one, yet, was nice to see him healing up.

Knowing glances, work, too, if too shy for confronting this individual.

I have heard that if one person in a school commits suicide that sometimes others will as well for some reason. Even "epidemics" they have called it in some cases.

Fox that is why I asked you in a previous thread how you felt about the suicide that happened?

You could leave a note for the nurse at your school stating that you are worried about this person and then let them take it from there. It's not a good idea for you to get involved, especially if you are unstable yourself.
Best wishes

It has effected me. Not in a good way. It makes me want to go trhough with it

Yeah... It h really effect me. I enevr even knew her... Never. It makes me want to go through with suicide.

That is what I was worried about. Have you ever told your T about your depression and suicidal thoughts?

Yes, you do matter!
What about going to see the school counselor together with your classmate, if you have the occasion to ask her if she'd like it?
Or if you don't want to be direct asking her what's wrong, you could just try to be particularly nice to her, for example asking her 'how are you' in the morning and offering to help if she seems to have troubles with something...also just not having a pen Everything can make the difference.
But really, you matter too Fox