[Evaluna]

I know we have a daughter together so he's never going to disappear completely but he only appears to see her around once every four months and its upsetting her.

Aside from that, I suppose I feel resentful towards him. He left me for someone else although he his this from me for a little while before the penny dropped. The fact he's with someone else isn't the issue but its how he lives. He supposedly has no job, but he's got a brand new car, a new house and has designer clothes. Meanwhile I live in a poky flat above a shop and had to sell my car because I couldn't afford to run it. I keep us just above water with working and stuff, but I just don't get it.

In reality I know he probably has everything via loans and stuff and its not material possessions that matter. I have my amazing daughter and I'd take that over anything in the universe. But he doesn't support her financially and it seems so unfair.

This seems like a pathetic moan about nothing but when I'm already feeling down it kind of takes over. Its hard to pick myself up when I feel like this.

[jelly-bean]

Have you turned him in for lack of child support? The law is on your side in this. Most states are getting much tougher on dead-beat dads so it's worth the effort. It will take some time but you won't be any worse off than you are now while you wait for them to catch up with him. How old is your daughter? If his visits or lack of them is upsetting to her then I believe that to be the most important problem and you should do whatever it takes to make her world feel good to her. Good Luck!

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by Evaluna

...but when I'm already feeling down...

Exactly. As you are already suffering with depression, you probably have little energy and focus available to deal effectively with your ex-husband. Can you find practical assistance (such as Jelly-Bean suggests) that would allow you to focus on your daughter and yourself?