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Old Dec 02, 2014, 06:39 AM
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well here is what on my mind .....
i grew up in horrible living conditions....mold on walls ... parents are horders...
never had one friend over threw grade school - high school ... my dad is an alcoholic ... has terrible human skills ... rude to everyone he meets even my friends parents ect... terribly mean to my mother....cant really understand the way he acts... i grew up not knowing my older brother and older sister because of them... but i do have relationships with them as of now.. .. i had chance to get out of this situation by moving in with my brother which i lived with for 15 months but i screwed it up by being out with friends to much and staying out late.... i just felt like i was finally living a semi normal life for the first time in my life and kinda of took advantage of the situation.... and got kicked out..this was about 5 months ago... soo i find myself living back in the house i grew up in which is in a worst condition now then i was before ... ive never had a girlfriend before... feel awkward in public some days.... i blame it on my childhood.... i just cant really come to terms with how messed up my current situation is. i want to fix it... for myself and start fresh.. so i can forget all this .. but i really dont know how ....
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Old Dec 02, 2014, 10:03 AM
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It must be hard living under those circumstances. The first thing I would suggest is to remember that your parents are ill. There are psychological reasons why people hoard. Learn to forgive them for dealing with things the only way they know how. Get into counseling and get past blaming your past. Only you can determine your future. That makes you responsible not your parents. Good luck. I hope you are able to move out soon and get on with your life.
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Old Dec 02, 2014, 02:03 PM
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Welcome to PC.
The first step would be to get out somehow. I kinda doubt you are going to forget it all. It is going to have an effect on you. How old are you? i am sure there are public services in Miami you could access to help you get on the right track. Medicaid for example, food stamps, job training, etc..

You might check out this section too.

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Old Dec 02, 2014, 03:14 PM
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well here is what on my mind .....
i grew up in horrible living conditions....mold on walls ... parents are horders...
never had one friend over threw grade school - high school ... my dad is an alcoholic ... has terrible human skills ... rude to everyone he meets even my friends parents ect... terribly mean to my mother....cant really understand the way he acts... i grew up not knowing my older brother and older sister because of them... but i do have relationships with them as of now.. .. i had chance to get out of this situation by moving in with my brother which i lived with for 15 months but i screwed it up by being out with friends to much and staying out late.... i just felt like i was finally living a semi normal life for the first time in my life and kinda of took advantage of the situation.... and got kicked out..this was about 5 months ago... soo i find myself living back in the house i grew up in which is in a worst condition now then i was before ... ive never had a girlfriend before... feel awkward in public some days.... i blame it on my childhood.... i just cant really come to terms with how messed up my current situation is. i want to fix it... for myself and start fresh.. so i can forget all this .. but i really dont know how ....
Your story is making me think of this talk. Is biography destiny?

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Old Dec 04, 2014, 01:20 AM
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video was interesting ... thanks for the replies .... my story is even worse than what i posted im afraid to put the rest on here.... i just want to talk to people about it because i fear if i do in person ... they will view me as charity or look down to me ..ect
i also feel stuck ... i just know my situation was soooo not normal and really really messed up ... all for no reason i just dont get it....
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