[Sirensong18]

I am depressed, and very lonely. I might even be so depressed simply because I am so damn lonely.

I'm married, but besides my husband I feel like I have no one I can talk to. I'd like to meet some new people (my age!) who live near by, but so far nothing I've tried has worked. I am 27, and do not have children.

My mother, who I used to talk to about everything and anything, died 2 years ago. I have no siblings, and I do not speak with her ex-husband (my wanna be father. He's a sociopath, and my life has been much better since I cut him out of it.)

I went to a free jewelry making class held at my local library. Everyone there was 60+, except for one girl who was there with her grandma. Grannie was very old, and the girl was maybe in 8th grade. So that didn't work.

I also struck out with a class at the local tech college. I figured it'd be a good way to learn something new and meet people who live in the area with similar interests. Unfortunately, everyone in the class was 50+. Except for one girl who was there with her mom, but she seemed to be a junior/senior in high school at the oldest. Too young for what I'm looking for.

My best friend lives in another state (4.5 hr drive away, so I get to see her maybe twice a year.) My other friends all live at least 1.5 hours away from where I am now. I did just get a new car, so at least I' not so transportation impaired anymore. But even so, no one is ever available to just hang out. Everyone is either: 1. Broke 2. Working all the time (and still broke) or 3. Having kids and always dealing with taking care of them (leaving no time to socialize.)

I am pretty much living paycheck to paycheck, even working full time. (I'm lucky to have a good job in this crappy economy.) I don't really have lots of time to volunteer anywhere, though I had considered this with the local animal shelter.

I'd love to participate in the local community theatre - but this hasn't worked out or me either. I tried out for a play, got cast in the choir, but they wouldn't give me a rehearsal schedule ahead of time. They were pretty much like, "come in for rehearsal on Monday, and we'll let you know the schedule for the rest of the week. It changes every week depending on what we have going on." Well F that - some of us work for a living and have to give 2 weeks notice about schedule or availability changes. So I had to drop out of the play.

I'm at my wits end. I want to be able to have friends I can talk to, people I can invite over to just hang out, play video games, go bowling, make cookies - whatever. I just miss interacting with other people! I had plenty of friends I got to talk to every day when I was in high school. Now that I'm not in school, I have no idea what to do anymore.

The less socializing I do, the less I feel like I'm able to converse normally when I actually am with people. I'm starting to develop anxiety issues about talking with people, even family, because I simply just don't do it often enough anymore. I'm always freaking out that I'll say something stupid, or make them think less of me, so I end up not saying much of anything.

How can I make some new friends? I want to meet people with whom I can carry on a conversation. (Read - not stupid or vapid people. There are way too many stupid people these days.) It'd be nice to meet other couples without kids, but that seems to be a non-existent thing. (Why is EVERYONE breeding?) I'd love a gal friend I could just hang out with. Why is this so hard to find?

[CANDC]

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[sherbet]

I don't know. I'm 27 and in a new city and I don't have any friends here either. I did find a meet up group for introverts but felt too…well…introverted to go to a meeting. If you do figure it out let me know.

[sad_mermaid]

I know exactly how you feel Sirensong18!
I Am a few years older at 31 but I am going through the same thing ...i have moved around a lot in the past 10 years and it makes it even harder for an introvert like me to find/make friends. I have no family or friends in my current town. My family lives 3.5 hrs away and see them 2-3 times a year.
I have a lot of online friends,and that's cool and all, but i can't call them to come over,or go shopping or do anything. I am married but I don't want to burden my husband with my depression because he is dealing with anxiety and panic attacks (making my depression worse). i have no one to vent to ,no shoulder to cry on,no girlfriends that would invite me to buy ice cream or go dancing... I work from home and although is pretty awesome to work in your jammies ,it's not so awesome when that is all you do.

Thank you for your post. I joined this forum because of it!
*hug*

[sasj1422]

I think that this is a fantastic post, but I'm also genuinely sorry that you feel that way. I completely understand. I think that our circumstances are a little different, but I'm also 27 and find it getting harder and harder to find girlfriends to hang out with, especially childless ones.

One option that I've seen other friends do is actually search for people on OkCupid. There's an option for people just seeking new friends and local people to hang out with. I'm much too shy for that sort of thing, but it could work for you.

[ptangptang]

If you have a happy marriage I would avoid dating sites. Sounds like a recipe for disaster don't rule out voluntary work for the elderly as co workers would often be your age. Meetup.com is always a go to choice to find groups.