For a while, I'm feeling like there are things missing. I don't have much of a social life; and have been thinking that I should make changes with what I'm doing. The problem is that I feel too afraid to make changes. I wonder if depression has something to do with it? I feel very content with my life with what I have. But at the same time, I feel like my life is going nowhere.

I like my job, but I feel bored with it. I don't talk to many people at work. I just have a room to myself to work in, in which I prefer anyways. There were nicer people in the past, but they are all gone now. I had contacted them since they left, but things were not the same. Also, I didn't care to get into conversations about how bad the place was for them.

At where I live, I had posted on here before about wanting to leave. I own a condo unit, and the neighbors do not seem friendly. Though at times, I can have some chit chat with others. I feel like I have nothing in common with any of my neighbors. And I feel like I'm the only one who lives alone in the entire place. I've thought of selling my place and moving somewhere else. I looked into a 55 + place (I am over 55) one time. For very little time that I spent wandering around, I came across some people living there and they were very friendly with me. The problem is that they are rentals and it would cost me almost twice as much to live there.

And I go to a church that I've been attending for three years now. But lately I feel like I'm tired of it. I want to go elsewhere, but I have been to many other churches before I ended up there. The other churches were not much better. I feel comfortable going there and I like the Pastor, but it seems like I'm not making any friends there. Except for that one friend that I have who attends there. There are times when my friend would order me to go do a little bit of work after the service. I'm not crazy about that.

Sorry this is so long, but that's how I'm feeling. Anyone else dealing with the same issues?

[waterknob1234]

Sometimes depression makes you want to change everything in your whole life, then it also can make you want to stay in the same situation. Also, I think the older we get the scarier change can be. If you like your job think twice before changing that as good jobs are not easy to find.

Do you need more social contact with people your age in your same state in life?

You do sound a little depressed or at least not happy with your life.

I have the same feelings about improving my social life. I know it's not good, but thinking about things to do to make it better makes me anxious and being anxious doesn't feel good, so I usually stop thinking about it.

I've never really been the type of person to socialize just for the sake of it - maybe that's my problem. I have usually found friends and social outlets through activities that I enjoyed.

Volunteer work in areas that interest me have been helpful to me in the past. (I stopped most of my volunteer activities about 6 months ago because of health problems and it hasn't been good for my depression.)

I have to ask - what kind of work does your friend make you do after church?