[InhaleExhale13]

Lately everything in my life is just caving in completely. I finally quit my job that was making me feel so depressed and drained everyday. I thought that would make me feel better right away.

But here I am. It hasn't even been two weeks yet and I feel so, so alone. I feel like a failure now that I'm not doing anything with my life. And I feel like I have nobody to really open up to. I thought I had a good amount of friends, but I was obviously wrong.

I just hate feeling so sad and alone. I just want somebody to talk to. That's all.
xxx Sophie

[Angelique67]

Hi Sophie, I'm sorry you're feeling so down. It can certainly bring on more depression to make a big change like quitting or changing a job. Often friends don't know how to help. I hope you'll find the answer to beating your depression.

[InhaleExhale13]

Originally Posted by Angelique67

Hi Sophie, I'm sorry you're feeling so down. It can certainly bring on more depression to make a big change like quitting or changing a job. Often friends don't know how to help. I hope you'll find the answer to beating your depression.

Thank you! I really do appreciate your reply! xxx

[Angelique67]

You're welcome! So as I always ask my friend, are you reading any good books lately lol.

[Frankbtl]

Hi Sophie, firstly well done on taking the step in quitting a job that clearly caused you so many problems. Obviously it wasn't the job for you, and it can be so easy to have a job drag you down and down and down to the point where, however much you want to, you can't see a way out of it/everything, and depression/the job just becomes "a way of life" or even worse than that. So well done!!!
And while it is completely understandable how you may feel a failure, please try to remind yourself that you're not!! You have done a good thing........you've been strong enough to say "enough" to the job, you were wanting more for yourself, you were wanting better in the way you've been feeling for yourself, you haven't been prepared to just settle/accept........, to wait while things just get worse and worse and worse. And your well-being is just priceless, so walking away from something that was jeopardising that........well can't fault yourself on that!!!!
And like you said, it's not even been two weeks..........with the way the job was making you feel alone........you're probably going to need more time to recoup from it a bit, and accept that it was not a failing in not wanting to carry on with it.
And now lack of routine, lack of things to fill that big chunk of time, bit of isolation..........but remember that drive to do something for yourself when you decided to quit, and try to keep it rolling a bit, you do matter and you matter just as much as ever.
Now more stuff for yourself, yes?? You've come a long way, don't let it stop now!!!
Maybe finding a routine?? Maybe finding things to occupy yourself between jobs/things you want to do?? Maybe exploring different job options out there?? Maybe looking for new doors you could open?? Maybe getting help with the depression if that needs to be a priority?? Maybe reaching out to some of those friends if they might not know that you need them around, or even if you use them as a distraction/do something/s with them??
But remember if you want to talk to people who might understand how hard it may be for you right now, we're here too.........so give us a try, hey??
You're not alone
Alison

[InhaleExhale13]

Originally Posted by Angelique67

You're welcome! So as I always ask my friend, are you reading any good books lately lol.

Hmm, right now I'm not reading anything, but I really adore cheesy romance novels and also psychological thriller type mysteries. What about you?

[Angelique67]

Originally Posted by InhaleExhale13

Hmm, right now I'm not reading anything, but I really adore cheesy romance novels and also psychological thriller type mysteries. What about you?

Sounds good! Actually I haven't tried to read a book in years. My concentration has really plummeted. I do have books here to read, mostly metaphysical stuff.

[wa(o)rrior]

Hi Friend

I'd been exactly in the same spot 2 years ago. i was very depressed and my job was dragging me down. i made a decision to quit and it made me feel relieved for a while. then i went down the path of guilt. i started worrying more and more thinking i made a wrong decision. it still bogs me but i console myself saying my health is more important than a job. i simply accept i am ill and need to heal myself. that's my priority. Jobs cause a lot of stress which will only make your depression worse.

[wa(o)rrior]

Hi Angelique67

Saw your post about your concentration plummeting. I can very well relate to what am going thru similar to your condition. i am bookworm and i read a lot. but there are times when i finish a paragraph only to realize i couldn't absorb the content. sometimes its a whole page. very frustrating ah?

[Angelique67]

Originally Posted by wa(o)rrior

Hi Angelique67

Saw your post about your concentration plummeting. I can very well relate to what am going thru similar to your condition. i am bookworm and i read a lot. but there are times when i finish a paragraph only to realize i couldn't absorb the content. sometimes its a whole page. very frustrating ah?

Yes! It's been on and off my whole life, mostly on for the past two years though. Coffee helps, but not always very much. I wish there were an easy fix for it. So sorry you have it too.

[Fuzzybear]

[InhaleExhale13]

Originally Posted by wa(o)rrior

Hi Friend

I'd been exactly in the same spot 2 years ago. i was very depressed and my job was dragging me down. i made a decision to quit and it made me feel relieved for a while. then i went down the path of guilt. i started worrying more and more thinking i made a wrong decision. it still bogs me but i console myself saying my health is more important than a job. i simply accept i am ill and need to heal myself. that's my priority. Jobs cause a lot of stress which will only make your depression worse.

Thank so much for your reply! I'm trying my very best to be positive about everything. I just really hate feeling like I'm failing. Thanks again! I hope you have a lovely day! xxx Sophie

[InhaleExhale13]

Originally Posted by Angelique67

Sounds good! Actually I haven't tried to read a book in years. My concentration has really plummeted. I do have books here to read, mostly metaphysical stuff.

Ah, I'm sorry to hear that. That has happened to be quite a bit over the past three or so years. I'll go through a period of time where all my free time is spent with me reading a book and then there are long periods of time where I have absolutely no motivation to even start a book. And if I do, my mind will be somewhere else and then I'll be at the end of the page and not even know what I've just read.

[vital]

Originally Posted by InhaleExhale13

Lately everything in my life is just caving in completely. I finally quit my job that was making me feel so depressed and drained everyday. I thought that would make me feel better right away.

But here I am. It hasn't even been two weeks yet and I feel so, so alone. I feel like a failure now that I'm not doing anything with my life. And I feel like I have nobody to really open up to. I thought I had a good amount of friends, but I was obviously wrong.

I just hate feeling so sad and alone. I just want somebody to talk to. That's all.
xxx Sophie

Hi Sophie,

That's really cool that you can manage to quit a job that's just depressing and draining you every day. I always think of the movie "Joe vs the Volcano" when I hear stories like that (I love the job scenes and Joe being diagnosed with a "brain cloud" ).

You can talk to us. My own view about "success" and "failure" is that if you can figure out a way to feel good, you are a "success" in the overwhelmingly most important way, and, especially in the modern world, feeling good is never far away from you.

- vital

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